Amber Tamblyn came under fire this week for defending her husband, David Cross, after actress Charlyne Yi reported that he had made a racist joke to her when they first met. Tamblyn has since reached out directly to Yi about the incident.

On Monday, Yi — now 31 years old — tweeted that when she first met David Cross about ten years ago, the now 53-year-old comedian made fun of her “tattered pants.” And from there, it only got worse.

Initially, fans included Tamblyn in tweets demanding an apology from Cross about the incident. At first, she simply said he had publicly apologized several times, and asked fans not to involve her in incidents involving her husband.

Later she followed up, tweeting, “I spoke to @charlyne_yi and her feelings/safety are all that matter to me. We’re good. I owe you nothing, Twitter. You’re lucky to have me.”

Here are all her follow up tweets about the incident.

In addition to Tamblyn’s response, Cross himself apologized to Yi both privately and publicly, tweeting, “I would never intentionally hurt someone like that. I do not remember doing this when I met her. I do remember meeting her though…. I am NOT accusing Charlene [sic] of lying and I’m truly sorry if I hurt her, it was never my intention to do that.”

He also noted that he commonly does an ironic “asshole redneck character,” and that he believes he must have been doing a “bit” when they met if this was indeed how he initially greeted his friend’s girlfriend.

Hopefully, Yi feels like she received the apology she deserves, and that David Cross uses this as an important learning moment (aka, just because something offensive is done “ironically” doesn’t mean it’s not offensive or won’t make those without white privilege uncomforable).