Brie Larson says something all the people-pleasers out there should hear

Understanding what another person is feeling in any given situation can be a blessing, but at times, it can also be a curse, especially for those who feel very deeply already. This is especially true for actors, who have to dive into the realm of human emotion day after day. Our girl, Brie Larson, knows this best, which is why she’s sharing some advice for all the empathetic people-pleasers out there.

At an event for her latest film, The Glass Castle, Brie shared some insight into what it means to be empathetic while still maintaining boundaries for the sake of your own mental health.

According to Bustle, the actress says,

"My empathy is the thing that has brought me closer to people, [and] has brought me all over the world and in crazy situations and beautiful situations. It’s also the thing that can leave me feeling kind of raw and vulnerable at the end of it. And so as I’m 27 and starting to learn more about myself and how to take care of myself...It’s figuring out how to do that and feel strong in that, and feeling strong and knowing when a boundary has been crossed or I’ve reached a certain limit and not beating myself up over it when I don’t find perfect balance."

Brie goes on to say that, for a long time, she was worried about what people think, and that she’s learning how to deal with that. She says that she’s a gooey person and wants to stay gooey, and that cutting herself off from these emotions would stop her from being herself (aka the sensitive, curious, empathetic person she is).

So for everyone else who’s wearing their heart on their sleeves, remember that you don’t have to please everyone. Keeping your heart open is so important, but so is your own wellbeing.

Use Brie as an example of being gooey while still setting boundaries. It may feel weird at first, but it’s totally possible — just take it from her.