Kit Steinkellner
November 24, 2014 10:22 am

When we hear “beauty advice” we usually think “some glossy magazine spread trying to sell us a bunch of purple lipstick because EVERYONE is wearing purple lipstick this winter or whatever.” But recently, in Glamour, Demi Lovato gave us some beauty advice that had nothing to do with eyelash curlers or asymmetrical bangs.

Okay, fine, Lovato DID talk a smidge about how obsessed she is with manicures and skincare, but the focus of the interview was on the dangers of buying into society’s image-based hype and how important it is to remember that inner-beauty is the real game to play.

In response to the Glamour magazine poll that revealed that women today feel worse about their bodies than women did 30 years ago, Lovato said:

“Social media started impacting my life when I was about 14 years old. I would check it obsessively, reading comments and wondering if people noticed that I’d gained or lost weight. I allowed social media to define what I thought of my body. And now I realize that no matter how thin you are, someone will call you fat. No matter how beautiful you are, someone will call you ugly. But you can’t spend your time worrying about that. You’re just not going to please the world.”

But she coming to terms with her own magnificent beauty in a real way:

“I tried to conform to what everyone thinks is beautiful. But my genetics gave me a curvy figure, and I’ve come to understand that in the Latina culture, that is beautiful. I no longer look at my body and think, Oh my gosh, I have such a fat butt. Or, I hate my thighs. On some days I don’t love them. But, you know, that’s one of the things that makes me me.”

Her takeaway? “You must love yourself. To look in the mirror and tell yourself that you’re a rock star, you know?”

That’s some beauty wisdom if ever I’ve heard beauty wisdom. Women kill themselves trying to be skinny enough, pretty enough, whatever enough, but it’s a battle none of us are ever going to win, because we’ve been give an unattainable goal that was designed to be unattainable. We’re not supposed to be pretty enough, skinny enough, whatever enough, we’re supposed to spend all our waking hours obsessing over the impossible because this makes women feel small and weak and helpless and that’s such a waste of time.

Big ups to Demi Lovato for speaking her truth and also just speaking THE truth. You’re not going to please the world. Your inner and outer beauty is always going to threaten someone. So you can’t let the haters win by giving them any real credibility. You just got to shake off the hate and do you, girls.

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