Kelly Gonsalves

Kelly Gonsalves is a multi-certified sex and relationships educator. She provides empowering, research-based information about sexuality, healthy relationships and identity through her writing and reporting, and she provides relationship counseling, coaching and workshops for individuals and couples. Her work has been featured in Teen Vogue, Cosmopolitan, Bustle, Vice, mindbodygreen and many other places. Keep up with her latest reporting and upcoming workshops: www.kellygonsalves.com

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