Teaspoon of HappyWorst Day EverSarah May Bates

You know those days when you’re just feeling kinda poopy, but then you shrug it off and talk yourself out of it. Then you get to work or school and something really crummy just makes that poopy feeling fifteen-times worse. So you’re like, okay, I can deal but man am I bummed. Then, when you’re managing but barely, something else happens that just makes you want to bawl your eyes out and debauch? It’s a “worst day ever” for the books. Well those days, it’s almost impossible to find a silver lining. Yes, other people in the world probably have bigger problems and yes, things could always be worse, but everyday life can be rough. In times like these sometimes the best practice is not to try and be super-human and suck it up, or trudge through it savoring the agony. It’s to first know you are having a normal, logical reaction: how else should you be? This day is terrible. And second, take one step in a positive direction.

This is a catch phrase that can be easily recalled when you’re having a hard time dealing, let alone doing. Just remember: positive action, positive action. It doesn’t matter what it is. Do your dishes. Do your nails. If you are relaxed by the outdoors, go outdoors. If you have been feeling bad about not exercising, do a 20-minute work out – anything that is productive or healthy, that you know will feel like a life-improving step. Make it easy on yourself and choose something simple. Because when you’re waist-deep in the mud and sinking, the best thing to do is anything helpful. Grab onto a branch. Don’t analyze if or why or how. Just grab one.

If you’re in a day that’s getting worse by the minute, find a way to give yourself some “you-time”. It’s for the good of everyone, not just you. Know yourself well enough to know when you need a break and find a way to take it. If you need to make an excuse, do it. Giving that gift to yourself and affirming its importance is in itself a positive step. It’s kind of like saying, “Don’t worry, me, I’ll take care of you. Your happiness is important.” It makes you feel worthy as a person if you treat yourself like a priority. Yes, we can all get through a bad day without doing things like this, but why suffer unnecessarily? There are habits you can set up for yourself that will promote healthier, speedier recoveries in the worst-days to come. Think of it as an apple-a-day kind of practice. You’re going to be saving more time for the “more important things” like work, if you make it a priority to support yourself as a human.

When you’re stuck inside a bad day the world and life can feel hopeless. Even if you know it’s just the day that’s bad, it does little in the way of relief. Just keep it simple. Don’t try and solve it all at once. Just take one step in a positive direction, and you’ll see the world from a vantage point that’s one step closer to manageable and clear. One step closer to thinking, “It’s sunny outside today.” Or “Oh yeah, I’m actually looking forward to my weekend.” Or, “Man, I really did handle that well, all things considered.” Or maybe even, “Actually, I think I’m pretty okay.”

Happy, happy Sunday, my love to you all! Enjoy your day today. xox Sarah

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  1. Loved this one, Sarah. :)

  2. This really boosted my already great day! Thank you! And this: “Don’t worry, me, I’ll take care of you. Your happiness is important.” is really good, yet so easy to forget. You should be your own friend, and you wouldn’t treat your friend any other way than that.

  3. I thought that I have had some preety lousy days until one recently when I somehow acquired a prostate infection. Now “Bad Days” has a whole different meaning.

  4. Hi Sarah,
    I’ve not said this before, I don’t think, though Amalia frequently does, but it’s true. Your weekly pieces seem like you’re living my life and are responding to my thoughts. I guess it’s that these things are helpful for everyone, but you are amazingly intuitive nonetheless.

    I’ve had quite a few of these days recently – and my ‘you-time’ involved buying a journal. I’ve had lots over the years, but I gave them up (the writer in me was horrified) when I came to uni because I was very rarely alone. Now I’ve realised that this is the one time I truly need one, to work through things I can’t mention elsewhere, and to have a reason to give myself time everyday. My poetry and novelling notebooks are all very well, but they are always the dominion of particular characters – convenient masks to hide behind. So my diary is necessary for ME. Thanks again.

    • Awe Jessi you are so nice!!! You make me smile. I know what you mean – journals are sooooo helpful though, I think you can move further, faster, because you process things on another level. It’s like it makes your intentions work better or something. As always, thanks for your comment! xo

  5. i understand this feeling really well :D (and i have the exact same shirt as the little girl..lol)

  6. thank you. i am trying to adjust to third shift, and hating every moment of it, but i do have weekends to look forward to. i will keep reminding myself of that.

  7. Your articles are my favorite on here! I can always relate to them and they always make me smile. You have a wonderful way with words, thank you so much for writing this!!!!!!

  8. This message fits my Sunday, today, perfectly! Thank you!

  9. “Don’t analyze if or why or how.” this is always my problem.
    cheers sarah for the reminder

  10. I always thougth, I’d be the only one who wakes up from time to time ready to cry because out of nothing you know, this day will suck ;)…so, I’m not crazy, thanks for that :D

  11. That was great Sarah, thanks for your words today, made a difference in my little life :)