First of all, how hilarious is this stock image for “sexual harassment?” Like, what even is going on here? Is this supposed to be a train conductor pinching present-day Joan Holloway’s butt or something? Idk. But anyways. Now that that’s out of the way, let’s talk about a woman who recently combated a random act of sexual harassment with one amaaazing Craigslist “Missed Connections” post.
The story goes like this: Woman, exhausted from a long day at work and waiting for public transportation, gets hollered at by dude in a truck. Dude yells some vulgar nonsense about whether she’s wearing a thong and then speeds a way before she can tell him to go F himself. Woman gets home and takes the dirty dude down on Craigslist.
Except it’s SO much more than that.
“If you’d stuck around,” she wrote to her harasser, “I would have happily shouted a few things of my own at you: that it’s people like you that make women avoid walking alone or taking transit even in broad daylight in their own cities; that no matter what screwed up metric you use it’s not a ‘compliment’ to have someone interrogate me about my underwear; that thanks to you I would spend the entire train ride home feeling scrutinized and gross because you didn’t have the willpower or maturity to keep your mouth shut; that your wife and daughters or at the very least your mother deserve better than a cowardly man who shouts at women from the safety of his car.”
This. All of this. And everything that she said both before AND after this. Such as:
“If you really find a woman beautiful, don’t choose the juvenile selfish route that makes her feel weird and you look like an a**hole. Just take a deep breath, commit the image to memory, and get on with your life. Or, if it’s really that great of an a** that you can’t possibly survive without commenting on it, post about it on CL missed connections after the fact and let her decide what to do about it.”
I couldn’t have said it better myself, so I won’t. But what this woman did is SO important because these things need to be mentioned and talked about and taught to boys and girls alike that it’s not okay and it’s not wanted and when someone does what this dude did, all it’s doing is making a stranger feel really uncomfortable. And it needs to stop.
You can (and should) read the unnamed woman’s entire post here.
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