Comments on: We Mourn Like Fingerprints

By: Mathilde Nayobi

Mathilde Nayobi — Fri, 26 Oct 2012 19:08:43 +0000

I am deeply sorry for your loss. I liked your paragraph about how each person mourns in a different way. My dad passed when I was 9 and since then, I have become an adept of sarcasm and black humor. A thing lots of people do not understand: they’re shocked when I joke about it (but I would never allow anyone to joke about it). And when this happens, I always wonder why they’re shocked. They didn’t know him. He wasn’t related to them. I just prefer to make bad jokes than cry in front of them and see feeling sorry for me. This is my way to deal with it and to move on with my life. It doesn’t mean I have a heart of stone.

By: Susy Shumaker Frey

Susy Shumaker Frey — Tue, 23 Oct 2012 19:17:02 +0000

Thank you so so much for these words of comfort. I just lost my 16 yr old son almost 3 weeks ago…a very blurred 3 weeks ago. Everything is so true and it is even harder when you have 2 daughters and a husband grieving at the same time and everyone in different stages of grieving (along with close aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents.) Yes I would love to wear a black armban so people wouldn’t say inappropriate things to me like complaining how miserable they are because they were up all night with a bad cold. Our son was a very special young man who fought all the odds throughout his life with a smile. Was evident from the over 1,100 (in a town of 6,000) friends and family who went to the visitation and funeral. It was amazing to us all who were touched by him…even a Chinese exchange student who told us Elliot was the first person to welcome him to the school…a boy who I was so afraid that wouldn’t be able to communicate with others due to his hearing impairment and learning disabilities. We can all learn a lesson from him that all we really need is a kind smile and the smallest of gestures to make the world go round. I hope you don’t mind but I am going to post the quote from you about fingerprints because it is so fitting where I am at this point.

By: Holly Tibble

Holly Tibble — Mon, 22 Oct 2012 23:44:50 +0000

Having just lost a close friend I have been searching for nay words that could really describe how I felt. Thank you.

By: Rebecca Foster

Rebecca Foster — Mon, 22 Oct 2012 17:33:07 +0000

Thank YOU Any for your brilliance is knowing just how to put pen to paper to make me feel better AND to honor my Ron.
I love you and am oh so very proud of you………..