Misogynist Soup Throwback to The Scarlet Letter, No More Funding for Your "Parties", and Sex Workers are People Too. Cézanne Colvin

To make this week’s Misogynist Soup, you will need the following ingredients:

  • A scarlet “A” and accompanying pin for your lapel.
  • If you’re not one of those kinds of women, just find someone who is! It’ll be fun — like Pin the Tail on the Donkey for sexist adults.

  • Raymond Wieczorek.
  • Odds are, he’ll be at the Pin the Tail on the Donkey “party”.

  • Those who prey on sex workers.
  • Hopefully, you’ll find them behind bars.

    THE BROTH

    Hussy!
    Photo via Blogspot.

    Do you know what this country needs? I personally think everyone could benefit from a vacation to the tropics and a well-tailored pair of jeans, but Roland C. Warren seems to have a different idea.

    He thinks that we, as a society, should focus our attention on shaming women who have affairs with married men. After noting male celebrities and political figures who have been ostracized for their recent infidelities, he’s setting the record straight as to where the fingers should really be pointed.

    “We are, as a society, a long way from making such women wear a scarlet ‘A’. But it was not so long ago that the community of mothers was organized and vocal and got fighting mad at women who were a danger to their families. Our society needs similar values today,” Warren wrote. “Back then, women who preyed on other women’s husbands were shunned, shamed and excluded. They were publicly pointed out as ‘those kinds of women’ to young girls as examples of what not to become, and to young boys as the type of women not worthy of their attention.”

    I’m almost – no, I am – in awe of his genius. It’s a misogynist masterpiece, really. Why bother shaming women yourself when you can get them to do it to themselves?

    Perhaps instead of assigning all of the blame to a third party, we could recognize that the fault that occurs in a marriage lies with the married couple, not a dangerous temptress. Perhaps instead of suggesting that those kinds of women should be used as examples of what not to become, we could teach love – both for our future or current partners as well as for our fellow humans – instead of hatred. And perhaps instead of inviting a jury into someone else’s bedroom, we could mind our own business. Relationships are tough and monogamy has been on the rocks for longer than push-up bras and seduction techniques like The Bend and Snap have been around. But shaming single women isn’t the panacea for a dishonest marriage and it never will be.

    Meanwhile, I really think my suggestion of well-tailored jeans is worth further examining. They work wonders.

    Source: The Washington Post.

    THE MEAT

    It’s just a saying, right?
    Photo via Buzzard Blog.

    New Hampshire became the latest state to hop aboard the tour bus traveling the nation that has set its sights on stripping women of their sexual and reproductive rights.

    After denying Planned Parenthood $1.8 million in public funding, strongly fueled by a conflict of interest about privately funded abortions, the organization has been forced to stop providing birth control pills and other contraception. This cut is expected to affect 120 low-income women in New Hampshire daily, and also endangers other services performed by Planned Parenthood, including pelvic exams. I guess it’s a good thing 2012 is right around the corner, because I don’t like where any of this is headed.

    New Hampshire council member Raymond Wieczorek said, “I am opposed to abortion. I am opposed to providing condoms to someone. If you want to have a party, have a party but don’t ask me to pay for it.”

    I don’t know what kind of ragers Wieczorek has attended recently, but the last time I checked, cysts, pelvic inflammatory disease, intense menstrual cramps, endometrial and ovarian cancers, and other benefits that birth control pills can provide to women aren’t exactly “a party”. Also, every decent guest knows that you at least bring an hors d’œuvre to a party, so you are paying for it somehow.

    If you’re going to make a public statement, at least make it an honest one. This is just another effort to contain and control female sexuality. Should we start dusting off our chastity belts now? I don’t know about you, but my apron could really use an accessory.

    There’s something extremely dangerous that lies beneath the mentality of caring only about issues that directly concern you. Must we really continue to repeat history? (And on that note, if we do, can we at least bring back smoking on airplanes? Turbulence freaks me out.) I’d like to call upon a quote that sums up my feelings on this manner, and frankly, all human rights matters that go largely unspoken for:

    First they came for the communists,

    and I didn’t speak out because I wasn’t a communist.
    Then they came for the trade unionists,

    and I didn’t speak out because I wasn’t a trade unionist.
    Then they came for the Jews,

    and I didn’t speak out because I wasn’t a Jew.
    Then they came for me
,
    and there was no one left to speak out for me.

    – Pastor Martin Niemöller

    Let’s all hope that we’re not too busy tending to our toddlers, figuring out how to pay for our medical bills, and engaging in other forms of “partying” the day your number is called, Wieczorek. I extend this hope to anyone who doesn’t think this or other women’s issues are worth their time.

    Sources: Reuters.

    THE TOPPING

    One of several posters currently floating around Halifax.
    Photo via CBC News.

    Although sex work has been romanticized in films like Pretty Woman and questioned in songs like the 2001 anthem ‘What Would You Do?’ by City High, the media tends to only portray both the profession and the lifestyle that come along with it in small glimpses.

    In light of a man facing charges for brutalizing a prostitute and murdering Nadine Taylor, a 29-year-old Halifax woman who worked as a sex worker, a sex-trade advocacy group in Halifax has introduced a campaign designed to humanize sex workers. Seemingly forgotten and looked down upon, crimes against sex workers often go unreported and uncared about.

    Stepping Stone, the group responsible for these posters, said that their goal is to show sex workers as “everyday people”. “They are somebody’s mother, brother, daughter … [not just these labels] society has given them,” said Rene Ross, executive director of Stepping Stone.

    Tired of reading “Hooker and Woman Killed” headlines, one former sex worker hopes that this campaign changes the public’s view of those who work on the streets.

    Source: CBC News.

    DIRECTIONS
    Combine all ingredients and bring them to a boil, much like my blood pressure is at the moment. You’ll know it’s done when it tastes like misogyny with a hint of “please tell me this isn’t real life”. Enjoy!

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    1. Well written! It is shocking how some people actually manage to get enough support behind them to get laws changed like this! I plan on sharing this article with every woman I know!!!

    2. I love that set of posters in Halifax, the rest of Canada and North America should take note and start promoting the idea that sex workers are people as well.

    3. :O is this for real?? God, there are a lot of dumb ignorant misogynistic prejudiced people out there!

    4. I live in NH and have been following this. It really angers me that these councilors are so misinformed. Although this measure failed in the Executive council, I can take small comfort in knowing my district councilor did vote in favor. I’m going t share this post on Planned Parenthood of Northern New England’s wall.

    5. Love this piece! Its a scary world we live in…

    6. I forgot to add said hospital is in Ecuador.

    7. Can you believe that in the social security hospital I worked for a woman can’t have a fallopian tube section unless first authorized by her husband??

    8. Another wonderfully written, enraging piece! Thanks for your column again :-)

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