"The Saddest Thing In Life Is Wasted Talent" Candice Sesi

I was recently asked what inspires or motivates me, and I went on and on about the arts, literature, nature, and finding beauty in its most simplest forms. It wasn’t until I was done rambling, that I sat back and realized that I, Candice Sesi, was almost a complete sell out to my dreams.

Years ago, I dreamed of being a creative writer. When asked where I saw myself in five years, I’d say, “Living in LA, traveling to New York City and maybe Paris. Writing articles about love, life, and friendship, and writing a novel. Oh, and in an on again off again relationship with an ex Degrassi star turned rapper who now goes by the name of Drake.” Well, not exactly in those words, but that’s what I meant, of course. Now, five years later, I’m the head of the finance department at a very successful finance company. While I am proud of my accomplishments and can honestly say I have worked so hard for my success, a major part of me acknowledges that I’ve kinda let myself down.

As we grow up, we learn that sometimes our dreams can’t pay the bills, but that doesn’t mean we have to give up on them completely, and I almost did. I am so grateful that I was given this amazing opportunity from HelloGiggles to share my thoughts and writing with so many readers, some of whom are so talented (I read your Tumblrs). I watch a lot of movies; yeah, yeah, I know, I’m single. RUB IT IN, WHY DON’T YOU!? Anyway, I will never forget the line from Robert De Niro’s character in A Bronx Tale, “The saddest thing in life is wasted talent.” I wholeheartedly agree with that statement. I guess my point is, if you have a talent, don’t hide it, don’t waste it, and don’t selfishly withhold it from the world! If you have a dream, if you have a goal, then go after it. It’s never too late to do what makes you happiest. I am a prime example. Maybe I let my fear of failure get the best of me. Maybe I got more caught up in making a good living than living good. Maybe I am not where I planned I’d be five years ago, but at least I’m on the right path, and maybe after another five years in finance, I’ll have the resources available to focus even more on my writing, and less on work.

I learned from a good friend (who I will tell you more about next week) that whatever path we choose in life, it is entirely up to us whether we succeed at it or not.

Life is hard enough with all the obstacles, all of the setbacks, and all of the “haters” that stand in our way; don’t be another object standing in between you and your dreams. Get out of your own way and make things happen. I am.

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  1. AMAZING POST!

  2. I’m glad I randomly came across this.. perfect timing too, as im leaving my college after 5 years (took time off to volunteer and travel) and I’m going to be out of school for a little bit while I can get a grip on my depression and possibly find a new school. Oh, and I totaled my car, so I’m basically living at home again. It’s just a shitty time and I have no idea where I’m going or what im doing, and I feel like giving in to my little brother’s logic when he tells me to “just get a degree in something like nursing so you can make money”. Yeah… I’m an art major, so I get that a lot…
    Anyways it’s nice to see someone fighting for dreams. I’m surrounded by negativity most of the time these days.

  3. This is totally my story as well. I want to be a journalist writing for Spin or the Village Voice, live in NYC, and instead of dating Drake, I would be dating Jason Segel. I have been putting my dreams on hold and I think it is my fear of failure. So here’s to overcoming fears.

  4. Thank you to all who have contributed comments! I am so touched that you’re touched :) You guys are the best! Good luck to all!

  5. thank you so much for this comment, i’m 21. I graduated with a vision of me travelling all over the world and writing about it at the same time. but here i am now, in a desk, working in a business organization particularly on the industry sector. i resented it at first but i am now understanding a lot and seeing things in a different light. again, thank you very much! :)

    • Good for you! Don’t get discouraged, try to see every experience and opportunity as a stepping stone to your goals. I promise it’ll help you to make better choices along the way. Just don’t lose vision of what you really want :)

  6. This literaly made me tear up and almost cry. I am finally on the right path to conquering my dreams and not letting anything else get in the way ever again. It is so scary and so hard and everyday I have to find ways to encourage myself and to be brave and to find joy in all of it. But thats the thing in life, all the things worth having are going to be difficult to reach, but I just keep telling myself to have faith and that everything will work itself out even if in the moments it feels like its not going to. Thank you for writing this, I think everyone sometimes needs to be reminded this. Good luck with your writing career, I’m sure you will get there soon! Keep on truckin <33 And maybe one day we can hang out in Paris together hehe. Paris is my dream. But I gotta become an actress first and makes some bucks. Hello LA in 6 months, fingers crossed. ;)

    • I’m proud of you! Keep doing what you are doing and I’m sure you will get to where you are meant to be.. and hopefully, I’ll see you along the way :)

  7. I’ve just graduated from college and I know I didn’t make the right choice back then, but I know what I want and I’ll fight for it. Your words made me realize how much I want it for me to work it out! Best of luck to You, Candice! *

  8. This is such a great article! I haven’t able to turn my dreams/talents into an actual career (yet), but I still try to pursue them whenever I have the time. I’m actually back in school for something completely unrelated, but hoping that within the next few years it will put me in a position that I’ll have more resources to use my talents more fully.

  9. Thank you for this. I need it today.

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