Teenage WastelandThe L Word (Love)Mikaela Foster

I feel love every day. I love my mom, my sisters, my brother, my step dad, my dad, my grandparents, my computer, my phone, Tumblr, my friends and the cast of “Teen Wolf.” Some things I love more than others; if I lost my mom, I’d be absolutely devastated but if I lost my favorite top, I wouldn’t care as much. There are a thousand different types of love, and one of them that I don’t understand is romantic love.

Actually, I understand it fine. What I don’t understand is how my peers feel it. Sure, we’re 13. All of us – well, SOME OF US – are completely love crazy and hormonal. The dating pool is outrageous. But can a 13-year-old really feel true love? I don’t think so.

There’s something I don’t get about a 13-year-old couple saying they love each other. In my school, I’m considered an “LG” (little girl), because not having your first kiss in eighth grade makes you immature. I’ve had a sizable amount of people ask me since moving here if I have, and my reply is always the same: why would I be dwelling over kissing someone when I could be focusing on more important things? I don’t tell them that these important things include maintaining a blog. Other kids, though, are getting into new relationships every week. I see wall posts on Facebook from couples that haven’t even been dating a full 24 hours, saying “I can’t live without you babe, I love you so much!” This is the thing that truly baffles me. How can you live without someone that you haven’t even lived with for more than a day? How can you love someone that you haven’t even been with for more than a day?

Social media is an assh**e. It makes us kids feel like we NEED to tell everyone how we’re feeling. So if a girl who’s officially been in a relationship for roughly 2 hours and 3 minutes (she’s been keeping count) sees that her friend posted on her boyfriend’s wall “I love you!”, OBVIOUSLY she has to write the same thing on her boyfriend’s wall. Because that’s what she believes.

Everyone’s tossing “love” around like it’s nothing. It may be for attention, it may be to make someone jealous, they may even think that they are in love. They don’t truly understand what love is. Isn’t love something you start to feel over time? It’s not the same thing as liking someone. They’re treating the real concept of love like nothing. Just because you’re in a relationship, it doesn’t mean you love them. I wouldn’t know anything about what it’s like to actually be in love, but it’s not something that happens overnight.

I just don’t know anything about love because I’ve never experienced it like that. The only person I’ve ever been in love with is my computer… Does that count?

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  1. ur just like me when i was at ur age. But now the feeling of love can shake a whole world to me.

  2. Hi, there dear ladies i love very much to be with as always during days and nights I have never been full up of you at all. I am in love with girls…………Love all lols

  3. Girl, you have such a good head on your shoulders. I remember how hard middle school and high school were thinking I was the only one not partaking in all this ridiculous relationship stuff. I didn’t have my first kiss until I was 19 and don’t regret it one bit. I’m 21 now and have my first real boyfriend, i’m so happy I waited until I was mature enough to get into a relationship. There really shouldn’t be any rush to have a boyfriend, just do you girl! You’ll figure all this stuff out someday and when you do you’ll be happy you weren’t one of those sluts in middle school.

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  5. I enjoyed this post so much because I find myself asking the same questions. I mean I’m 18 and have never felt the need to have a boyfriend. I haven’t even had my first kiss! But that’s the thing I am in no rush. I’m too into my studies and frankly I don’t want to kiss someone just for the sake of saying I have kissed someone.

  6. Very mature post! And spot on accurate!

  7. I’m 15 and i never had a Boyfriend or my First kiss..
    My friends instead , already had a Boyfriend and their First Kiss.
    Except for some of us only had a Boyfriend for 2 weeks, and then she realised she didn’t love him..

    I also like your writing and the way you think, well done :)

  8. The exact same thing always goes on at my school! butwhen 2 people like each other they call it “dating” even if they NEVER TALK…. middle school…..

  9. I’m still with and in love with the guy I feel in love with when I was 13 but every other boy was just to piss my parents off. I’m really glad that someone your age can understand the things that most of us take 10 years to look back and figure out. Good Job!

    • You are great lady that you have understood the reality of the real life to have a partner in your daily routines. I so hope you will be ongoing your thoughts………..Love for you my dear

  10. I’m really happy to see there’s still hope for this world !! ;D

  11. The thing is, these classmates of yours are destined for heartbreak. That’s not necessarily a bad thing, being dramatic and emotional is a part of the teenage experience. The sad fact is that this sometimes carries out a little to zealously into adulthood. When I was your age, I was more in love with bands than I was with any person. Scratch that, I still am in love with musicians more than “real” guys haha. Don’t worry about being the girl in love at 13, trust me it rarely turns out well. The first time I said and felt love I was 19 and in college. And it was the BEST. Because I knew enough to know it was real. Waiting is great, it’s why my first kiss was in the middle of a street wearing my crush’s jacket at 15. Because I knew there was no hurry for perfection. Love and relationships are the type of thing that’s worth putting in a little time and patience, too many things are mediocre in life. Don’t let love be one of them.

  12. I have 15 and have never had a boyfriend, nor my first kiss. Yes, I have had tons of crushes. I before would be terrified of what my friends would think about me, the truth is that when they found out, they also confessed they haven’t had their first kiss yet! You ‘litle girl’are doing it right. Focuse on school, your blog, your family, and friends. Be weird, laugh out loud, don’t care about what others think and have tons of crushes on celebrities and people you barely know.

  13. I’m turning 21 this year, and have never kissed a boy nor fallen in love yet. I’m willing to be patient and wait for the right one to come along, so that my first experience of love will be a genuine one with someone who truly loves me!

  14. :) I’m glad you think the way you do. I’m 24 and its true even in my age group. I have to roll my eyes sometimes at the things people post on facebook. All those showy I love yous usually come from people who are in and out of relationships constantly or changing their status from its complicated to single to in a relationship to its complicated all over again. True love shouldn’t have an its complicated moment haha. The way I feel is you are either in it or you are not. Love is a simple beautiful emotion and I completely agree, its not to be tossed around and used like that. Hopefully its something those kids will see in time, I’m glad that you already have. :) Proud of you! Take your time!

  15. What a beautifully mature approach to the bitch that is being a teenager.
    I hope that you can carry this insight into your adult years , I sure could do with some myself! And I’m 27! :) (I’m also in love with my iPad, and Chris Hemsworth, more than I am any ‘actual’ man….)

  16. You’re so wise beyond your years Mikaela. I didn’t have my first kiss until I was 16. Also, you’re an internet celebrity- I love all of your blog posts. I’m pretty sure that one ups you…. times a million.

  17. I’m going into 10th grade and I’ve never had my first kiss– in fact, I’ve never had a boyfriend. I feel that it’s better to place your priorities on school first, and then wait for Mr. Right. You’re a very smart girl! :)

  18. youre smart

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