The Dirty Thirty Erin Foster

Oh, hey there. Long time no see. I know that I definitely have a little ‘splanin to do. I kind of just went MIA without any warning. Sorry about that, by the way.

The thing about the Single Girls Guide is that it sort of took on a life of its own at some point. At first it was just me being an idiot and complaining about guys being douchebags to us. Then I became the leader to an army of Beyoncé-chanting singles. What could be better, honestly? We were in it together. But like any adorable aging blonde such as myself, my life was moving forward and I wasn’t necessarily going to stay single. I would be out in the world holding hands with someone I was hoping would want to call me a trophy wife one day, and one of you nosy little readers would see me and be all, “What the hell do you think you’re doing? You’re supposed to be single!” And I’d be like, “Hey, stop c*ck-blocking.”

Then people would say that I should be writing about the relationships that I’m in and out of during the time I’m posting Single Girls Guides. But here’s the thing about that that you have to understand: I try to only write about relationships once I’ve been removed from it enough to have some perspective. We never know our mistakes while we’re actively making them. And we don’t always even know how real our feelings are until we’re looking back on them. Don’t you think its strange that you can look back on someone who you thought you were more in love with than you could ever be again, and now when you think of them, you’re like, “HIM?!?! No no, I never loved that idiot. Look at him.” So, what if I was writing about him during the time I loved him? I’m the one who has to live with that bad decision. Maybe I’m getting a little defensive. That sounds like something I would do.

The point is that I’m ready to broaden the scope of the knowledge I drop, here at HelloGiggles. Do I know a lot about being single and pissed? Yes. But I also know a lot about walking around with a visible bruise from getting Botox. And that’s something I may not have been able to touch on when trying to stick to the dating topic. And getting Botox brings me to the subject that I’m gonna be turning thirty this year. In three months and fourteen days to be exact. Part of me couldn’t be happier to finally exit my twenties that seemed to be filled with self doubt and bad hair color choices. The other part of me is like, “I’m sorry, did you say Lady Gaga is FOUR years YOUNGER than me?!”.

So when I was getting Botox, or “a facial” as I call it when my boyfriend asks me where I’ve been all morning, the doc was like, “You should make an appointment for one of my lasers. It’s good for women in their early thirties”. I was like, “Yeah, I’m sure it is. Luckily I’m much younger than that.” Then he looked at me with this sad face that said, ‘Aww, she isn’t going to age with any grace at all.’ So I gracefully asked him to make sure he got every drip of that poison in my forehead.

I think I used to use my youth as a reason to not fully commit to anything. I always felt like I would do it another time when it all felt more important. It’s okay to have a dirty car, I’m 18, who cares? My handwriting is legible, that’s all that matters, I’m 22. I stayed with him because he really liked me and that feels exciting, it’s not like I was gonna marry him, I’m 25. The funniest thing happened today, my bank account has insufficient funds, but whatever, I’m only 27…

That s**t isn’t cute anymore. The truth is that it never was. But clearly I’m a little late to the game on that one. And as I near my third decade, I’m ready to act like a grown up. A real one. I don’t want to brag about not knowing how to cook, or never making my bed or eating a bagel for dinner. 30 is the cut off year for that kind of nonsense. So, I’m vowing to make a change here and now. And that will be the topic of my posts from now until I think the subject is boring. Or, I guess if you guys say its boring. The dirty thirty. Bring it on.

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  1. Seriously I couldn’t be happier that you’re back!!!!

  2. Erin! glad you’re back regardless of topic :) I am a little bummed single girls guide is no more- just because you have a great way of making it okay to be a single girl. I also really loved all your advice on the livestreams. I’m sure you will handle this next chapter with grace and style. Oh and who cares about lady g? Kim K is 30 hellooooo

  3. 30 before 30 list!?! How did I not know of such a thing! Can I make it a 31 before 31 list?

  4. I love this post. I am in that age level and I don’t know if I changed or not. People around me maybe think I am mature. But only my partner and family I live with know’s I still have that teenage and 20′s attitude. I just want to be happy and be spirit free. Botox is really something, I am considering it but bangs is prolly cheaper. Tomorrow I will get that bangs.

  5. So glad to have you back!

  6. YAY 30! Girl, I’m 34! Yeah and I still don’t believe myself when I say it out loud. Funny, you talk about Botox because I was considering it a couple of months ago because of lines on my forehead that I hate and went for bangs instead. Now you know my secret. Embrace your 30s they are awesome! But know, you won’t magically feel like a grown-up just because your in your 30s…I truly believe that won’t happen for me until I become a mom. Once I’m responsible for another human being I’ll feel “adult” :)

    Grasie Mercedes | 5/16/2012 12:05 pm
  7. Brilliant! I am also about to turn 30 – bring it on!

  8. I’m very excited to read your new blog! I just turned 29, so I have a year to make my “30 before 30″ list. But just this past year I got married AND knocked up, so I ‘ve grown up a lot in that short time span, and I’m still struggling with priorities that need changing. I can’t wait to see what you come up with for this blog!

  9. LOVE this. Your new blog rocks:) and I’m also happy your in your 30′s so you don’t seem a decade younger than me anymore.

  10. Why are some of these comments so hateful? Where is the love gigglers?

    • Don’t worry, Maggie – we try to keep generally positive vibes around here, and hateful or antagonistic comments/commenters won’t be tolerated! We deleted the comments in question and hope that everyone who comments can leave their personal issues out of it and concentrate on the content! :)

  11. I can fully relate to everything discussed in this post. There comes a day when you realise it’s time to stop acting like a character from a Zach Braff movie. And I can only truly feel sorry for those who never grow up, sorry in a very loving sisterly kind of way. I know it takes a lot of smiles and frowns, tears and joys,
    sleepless nights, hangovers, kisses with strangers, flat tires, first dates and goodbyes to get those tiny lines on your face. But none the less, I got my first botox 3 weeks ago and have no regrets. Here’s to growing up!

  12. I’ve missed your posts! great as always.

  13. Love it! I’m turning 30 this year, and kept telling myself it was ‘late this year’, and it is, but the year is progressing quickly, and my birthday is now just over 6 months away. That’s not long to get my 30 before 30 list done!!!

    Help me, Erin Foster, you’re my only hope.

    No pressure!

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