When I was little, I played with Barbie dolls. Also: Bratz dolls, American Girl dolls, etc. But I had a closer relationship to my collection of Barbie dolls. Some part of me thought that’s what I’d grow up to look like — no fat, barely any curves, awesome hair… the beautiful, silky hair girl with a perfect body. In the games I played with my Barbies, their boyfriends were always romantic and their friends were never mean. If my dolls could have it all, so could I.
I’m older now and I’m psyched to not be a Barbie. Her waist is ridiculous. She has no curves – those hips are not curves people! And her hair is not as silky as when I use conditioner. And people, she’s got a weird-looking expression on her face. Not perfect (also, there’s no such thing as perfect, but that’s another post).
But you know, I worry about what Barbie represents and what that is telling little girls – that life is going to be amazing as you drive around in your Barbie convertible and live in your Barbie dream house and everyone will love you and it will happen if you look just like Barbie. She sent the message that girls would always look like we came out of a beauty closet and that we would have no trouble in life and blah blah blah.
I’m older now and I have learned that I will never end up looking like a Barbie. But what about other girls who aren’t comfortable with their bodies? Or who don’t know that real beauty is from the inside and how not a lot of people see who you are the first time they meet you? Or who don’t know that the average Barbie is not a doll and not a real person?
I’m thinking about beauty a lot for a lot of reasons – make-up and outfits are part of it, but also because I’m learning more about boys and what they see and what they don’t see. Does he not notice you because you aren’t pretty? A lot of people don’t see a person’s personality until they get to know that person and realize, wow, this is a beautiful person. They may like someone who they just think is cute. Never even spoken to them. I don’t get how you can do that. To me, the personality is the most important part. I never thought a boy wouldn’t like me just because another girl was prettier than me.
So here’s what I think we need to remember all the time:
LOVE THE WAY YOU LOOK
You’ve heard me say this before in another post, but I want to take it a step further. If the guy you like doesn’t like you, his loss. Never doubt your beauty and if anyone doesn’t like you, realize and KNOW that inner beauty is the one that counts.
WEAR YOUR FACE
Don’t go overboard with make-up! Just saying.
PERSONALITY COMES FIRST
Remember, even if he is cute, make sure he is nice or sweet first. Make friends with him before you ask him out or something.
Don’t compare yourself to a Barbie. Or anything you see in magazines or the movies. I mean, when I look at clothes, I’m looking at the outfits, not the girls. I’m not thinking, oh I want to look like her, I’m thinking, how can I convince my mom to get me another pair of jeggings? So when you look in the mirror, be psyched! That’s you, dude, and you are awesome.
WHEN YOU HAVE A KID…..
Teach your kids to love themselves.