Teaspoon of HappyTell someone you love them todaySarah May Bates

Today I was asked to help Hello Giggles honor the anniversary of 9/11, a subject that is too big for all of us and still too painful for many of us to talk about, let alone blog about. So today I honor the tragedy with what I believe we can do in the face of it. On the 10th anniversary of the day that changed everything as we know it, honor the memory of those lost and their families by telling someone you do have in your life that you love them.

There are few situations in life that instantly bring everything into sharp focus. It’s usually a birth, death, celebration, tragedy – an unexpected or impossible event. Something so big that it causes you to re-calibrate everything you know to be true. The bright flood lights that show you what matters most: who you wish you told you were sorry, who you wish you spent time with and what you wish you could change.

It shouldn’t be just these events that bring out this awareness. It should be something we can access when we take life for granted. When we are annoyed, dissatisfied, petty. The times we are hurtful and punishing. When we get mad at traffic. When we complain about a wrong order. Nothing matters more in life than having health and happiness, and the health and happiness of those you love. If you have those things, you are the luckiest person in the world. Money means nothing in the face of that. It has no value except for its value as it relates to those things.

It’s hard to feel that way when your having a crappy day or month or year or five years. But wherever you are in life, you have things to be grateful for. Sometimes I write a list of those things so that I can be truly aware of the good in my life. Even the small or seemingly frivolous things en masse add up to be great. The majority of my list is always the people I have in my life. I am so, so grateful to have them all and I hope to never waste a second with them that could be savored. I hope they always know what they mean to me, and that I love them, and how much.

Today I invite you to ponder this piece of your life and let it make you happy for all that is good. Celebrate your friends, your spouse, your parents, your partner, your neighbor, your boss, your sister, niece, grandfather, the checker you see every week at the grocery store. If there’s a person you’ve been thinking about but haven’t talked to in a while or a person you talk to all the time but you just haven’t told them how you feel, reach out today.  Life is precious and fragile, and it is a gift that we have all been given. Let us remember that today.

Featured image from Linus Gerber’s Flickr gallery

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1729202193 Paulette Brunetti

    Thank You….I am really glad to have read your words tonight….I tell my family and friends every time we speak that I love them….but my thoughts tonight are of a very special man in my life that I love and have not had the courage to tell him and have been waiting for him to say it first…because of a health issue he is worried about me being hurt if he should die ..we are getting closer all the time … I would hurt even more and have regrets if I never tell him how I feel about him…as 9/11 has shown life can be gone in an instant….come what may I want him to know that he is loved

  • http://www.facebook.com/noelleferralis Noëlle Ferralis Carbonell

    I’m a little late but this is so inspiring! loved it

    • http://www.facebook.com/sarahmaybee Sarah May Bates

      Thank you Noelle! (I don’t know how to make the umlats thingy) x

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100001700940738 Christopher Branum

    Great article, i was just thinking about this today… maybe a week later, but Im glad i found this. I just told my friend that i talk to all the time how happy i am we’re friends, right before i read this :) Also, I like how you respond to every post, must be tiring lol

    • http://www.facebook.com/sarahmaybee Sarah May Bates

      Not at all Christopher. I like talking to people. Thanks for the comment :)

  • http://www.facebook.com/nazynazynazynazy Renee Naylon

    Sarah, lovely article, but I’m interested to know what a ‘recovering vegetarian’ is?!

    • http://www.facebook.com/sarahmaybee Sarah May Bates

      Thanks Renee!!! It’s a silly way to say it, but basically I was a vegetarian for 14 years, and then I started learning how to cook. And I KNEW I was missing a lot when people talked about sushi and steak, and I literally had to force feed myself meat to get back into it again. It totally grossed me out (conceptually). I’m still not a full-meat eater yet but it’s such a big part of food, I didn’t want to block things out anymore. :)

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=516941682 Maria Andrea Hernandez

    This is really one of the best ways to commemorate the tragedy of 9/11. Wonderful article.

    • http://www.facebook.com/sarahmaybee Sarah May Bates

      That means a lot to me that you think that. It’s a hard one to tackle – so glad you thought so!!

  • http://www.facebook.com/naynayr0xal0t Rhonda Hare

    I was just talking about this very point earlier.
    This is beautiful, .. thank you!

    • http://www.facebook.com/sarahmaybee Sarah May Bates

      Thanks Rhonda, you are sweet for commenting :)

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100001592478655 Laura Mendez

    You’re right: nothing matters most than the health and happiness our Loved Ones, as well as our own… Thanks for the reminder :)

    • http://www.facebook.com/sarahmaybee Sarah May Bates

      Thanks for commenting Laura !!! :)

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100001692363422 Kathi Stens

    great article, i’m having a hard time at the moment, because i have to decide now, where i wanna go in life, but your article reminds me of all the good things in life, thank you!

    • http://www.facebook.com/sarahmaybee Sarah May Bates

      That is really touching – I wish I could post my real smile instead of the silly happy face.

  • http://www.facebook.com/franco451 Frank Fraone

    Well said! You help me to put things into perspective.

    • http://www.facebook.com/sarahmaybee Sarah May Bates

      Thanks for reading it and so glad it helped you. :)

  • http://www.facebook.com/jennylonussen Jenny Lonussen

    Beautiful post, thank you for writing this!

    • http://www.facebook.com/sarahmaybee Sarah May Bates

      Thank you so much for reading :)

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100002544817765 Kristin Eley

    God bless you.

    • http://www.facebook.com/sarahmaybee Sarah May Bates

      Thank you Kristin.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1139610569 Andrea Augustinas

    This was incredibly well said, thank you for your words. I really appreciate this message of kindness and compassion, rather than so much of the anger and darkness that’s been flying around.

    • http://www.facebook.com/sarahmaybee Sarah May Bates

      Thank you for saying that Andrea :)

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1027576865 Frollein Schultheis

    that picture made me cry.
    thanks for your wonderful post!

    • http://www.facebook.com/sarahmaybee Sarah May Bates

      It made me cry too – I asked our editor if I should even use it because it hit me so hard. But we decided maybe that was the right photo for a reason.

  • http://www.facebook.com/bonnie.gail Bonnie Birdsell Williams

    This is a sweet post. Thank you.

    • http://www.facebook.com/sarahmaybee Sarah May Bates

      Glad you liked, and thank you.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1085139044 Paulette Tilden

    Lovely. We should never take anything for granted. Thank you.

    • http://www.facebook.com/sarahmaybee Sarah May Bates

      Thanks Paulette.

  • http://www.facebook.com/noemie.faivre1 Noémie Faivre

    Thank you for that article. The ones that I Love know it but I Will tell them again today.

    • http://www.facebook.com/sarahmaybee Sarah May Bates

      :) thanks Noemie.

  • http://www.facebook.com/AduroExObscurum Jeremy Teubert

    Great article! And a great, hard, comfort-zone-smashing perspective. I’m sitting in Afghanistan right now and as I think about all the things I have to be grateful for it amazes me that in a culture as insular as the military a great many of those things are people.

    Great writing, and good reading. Well played. -J

    • http://www.facebook.com/sarahmaybee Sarah May Bates

      Oh my god, thank you for reading. I have a loved one that will be joining you there soon. I am glad to hear there are people like you there. :)

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