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3/05/2012 07:03 am
Teaspoon of Happy Take Comfort
Sarah May Bates

We can all take comfort in the simple knowledge we have. Sometimes we just have to allow ourselves to. It’s a part of being self-protective, self-sufficient, proactive: to get wrapped up in solving things and controlling or predicting the outcome of our lives. To know too much about people and how they work can sometimes help us, but more often, it drives us a bit mad. A mantra of sorts that can help you to let go of the things you can’t but want to control is simply “take comfort”. Take comfort in your self, your awareness, and that which is concrete.

Whether it’s a first date you’re preparing for and you feel yourself already worried about if the relationship one day ends, or you’re obsessed with the idea that something you said wasn’t right, take comfort in the facts and let it go. When I begin to obsess about the “what-ifs” of a situation, when I feel I can see something on the horizon or I’ve been able to sense something through subtle cues, I know I cannot act on that information, and in order to get to the right place, meaning a place where I’m not going in circles, I have to rely on the simple truths. A simple truth being: “I trust this person.” “I will figure out what to do if X scenario happens.” “I am kind and loving, and human.” Or “I want to enjoy this, regardless of the future, which I cannot know.”

You can hold tight to facts or truths that you know, despite the buzzing “what-ifs” that fly around you. In a way, you can walk forward stronger and more assured because you are putting faith in yourself being okay with any outcome. You can’t control people or what they do, and you can’t make everything happen perfectly in life. You can however, assure that you feel okay and peaceful throughout all of it.

Take comfort in the knowledge that you will be okay. No matter what. You are strong, you will take care of yourself and heal, and you will grow stronger every day. It’s a simple mantra, but I offer it with the hopes that it works for you too. Happy Monday, love to you all. xox Sarah

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3/05/2012 07:03 am
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Sarah May Bates is a comedy writer, recovering vegetarian, yogi, and lover of all things delicious. www.sarahmaybates.com, @sarahmaybee

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    Wow! Sorry but I think that I disagree. Or maybe I read something erroneous into what you said? Taking comfort is accepting mediocrity as a viable option. It’s taking a job that you hate because it pays the bills. Once correctly prepared and properly motivated one need not compromise anything. Once you make yourself substantial others will follow and emulate YOU. Far too many people are happy just to fit in even if that means their round peg is stuffed into a square hole.

    Robert Remillard | 3/05/2012 03:03 pm

    • Hi Robert, I think we might be referring to different topics. I agree with your points about never settling or being untrue to who you are. This is more about how to manage feelings that are products of things you cannot control.

      Sarah May Bates | 3/06/2012 10:03 pm

  2. Thank you! This is just what I needed today! I think I’ve been trying to ‘take comfort’ for the last few weeks and not quite getting there but I’ll favorite this and re read it when I need to do just that! :) x

    Janet Satherley | 3/05/2012 02:03 pm

  3. Sooo true! Cheers to being happy with the simple truths Sarah! Great article by the way. ;-) )

    Jane Quinoñes Supeña | 3/05/2012 02:03 pm

  4. I always read your articles, and often leave comments. These are usually so pertinent to my thoughts (as they are to so many of us), but this one takes the cake as being most timely and appreciated. Thank you, thank you :)

    Kristin Eley | 3/05/2012 01:03 pm

  5. Can I just say how absolutely delicious that cup of hot chocolate with mini marshmallows looks? lol great article!

    Ashley Lynn Cook | 3/05/2012 10:03 am

  6. Lovely!

    Meg Patch | 3/05/2012 09:03 am

  7. to post a comment

    Deb Robinson | 3/05/2012 08:03 am

  8. I don’t think it could have been said any better by anyone else! Perfectly worded in such a delicately direct way. Your words are an inspiration! <3

    Deb Robinson | 3/05/2012 08:03 am

  9. Great advice! I needed this. I think I might indulge in some hot cocoa with a handful of marshmallows while I repeat the simple truth “I am kind and loving, and human” to myself.

    Victoria Wolf | 3/05/2012 08:03 am

  10. I cried in a good way too… It may seem strange but I wasn’t aware of how much importance I give to the “what-if”s until now that you’ve actually explained how to avoid them, something to work upon surely! Thank you! :)

    PS: I apologise if my comment on your previous article was overwhelming!

    Have a happy week Sarah!

    Sílvia Juncà | 3/05/2012 08:03 am

  11. Needed this on my stressful monday!

    Kirsten Mcgaughey | 3/05/2012 08:03 am

  12. made me cry.. but in a good way. thank you. Been having a hard time for a while now.

    Ali Powers | 3/05/2012 08:03 am

  13. this is a great article – i wrote down a few quotes! thank you

    Megan McPhilemy | 3/05/2012 07:03 am

  14. Thanks sarah! <3 so very true.

    Ginger Duran | 3/05/2012 07:03 am

  15. Thank you, Sarah! This is brilliant! :)

    Amalia Pantazi | 3/05/2012 06:03 am

  16. Thanks Sarah for posting this. I didn’t realize I needed to hear this, but it is exactly what I needed this morning.

    Lucy Bergin | 3/05/2012 06:03 am

  17. Thank you, Sarah! I always look forward to reading your articles! Have a wonderful week!

    Sophia Fiorenza | 3/05/2012 05:03 am
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