Comments on: Society is Silly: On Not Being Gay

By: Dana M. Abel

Dana M. Abel — Wed, 13 Feb 2013 15:34:03 +0000

@Maggie I don’t think that “if someone thought you were something you weren’t” would “obviously” cause negative feelings. What if someone met you and assumed you have a different job than you do? Would that cause negative feelings? I live in a college town, and people often assume I am a college student when they meet me, but I don’t feel negatively about that. I think whether or not you have a negative reaction depends on *what* people assume of you. That’s Sean’s point. Why have a negative reaction when people assume you’re gay, but not when they assume you have a different occupation, etc.?

By: Rachel Ariane

Rachel Ariane — Wed, 13 Feb 2013 06:28:57 +0000

Gender roles and expectations dictating on how men and women should act should not be a rubric to see if someone is out of the closet or not, like using the “gaydar.” I find it ridiculous when people assume I’m a lesbian who calls other women “babe,” “darling,” etc. yet in reality, I’m a straight woman. However, I do all I can to not mind it because in the end, I should only care about myself while not being too selfish as I should be considerate to others at the same time.

Anyway, great article as always Sean and keep ‘em going.

By: Maggiee Underwood

Maggiee Underwood — Tue, 12 Feb 2013 19:47:53 +0000

If you aren’t gay, then the idea of yourself being gay would be kinda taboo. That would obviously cause negative feelings if someone thought you were something that you weren’t. I don’t think it’s necessarily just a stab at being gay.
Men are programmed to want to prove their masculinity, and for some, this is just part of that.Not to say that this is always the case, but it sounds like normal middle school thoughts to me.