This Is What Real Friendship Looks Like Katie Powell

I’ve been alive for 27 years and thankfully have had my fair share of friends, all of whom have shaped me into the fun-loving, music-chasing, occasionally looney toon of a woman that I am today. I have always valued my friends and have prided myself on picking good ones – as my mother always preached, “You are the company that you keep.”

What real friendship looks like in my eyes has changed as I’ve changed. In elementary school, my BFF was always there to run with me when the boys would chase us around the playground and to defend my sticker earrings when another 7-year-old who wore REAL earrings (her parents were pretty progressive) teased me when one of my Christmas trees fell off. In middle school, OH MIDDLE SCHOOL, my BFFs were girls I cheered with because obviously, we had everything in common. With high school came a lot of major life decisions, of which my core circle of friends floated through with naïve ease and lots of laughter.

College welcomed a new set of friends who became some of the most important people in my life – we went through break-ups, internships, family changes, more break–ups, weddings. It all happened and the more that happened the closer we became. Life after college has introduced new friends and strengthened the classics, and it’s been fun and scary and everything in between to do life together.

Needless to say, I’ve learned a lot about friendships.

So what does real friendship look like? 

- Calling in the middle of the night because he still hasn’t called and you’re upset.

- Texting the millionth “Are you sure I’m okay?” message when you start to panic about life and need a little affirmation.

- Picking up right where you left off, every time.

- Sitting on the couch for hours talking through anything and everything without a time limit.

- Having them look you in the eye and say, “I love you but you’re being ridiculous.”

- Ordering pizza and watching Netflix because you need a night to turn your brain off.

Keeping in touch through all means possible because your friendship matters more than your location.

- Dropping everything to celebrate the good stuff and to work through the tough stuff.

- Communicating!

- Picking you up from the airport and immediately listing everything you’ve missed while trying to decide where to eat.

- Noticing when you lose weight/trim your hair/finally stop biting your fingernails.

- Pushing you to be a better human being.

- Knowing you in and out and in between and loving you more because of it.

- Giving advice only when you ask and without judgment.

- Praying for each other and meaning it.

- Having them look you in the eye and say “I’m proud of you. You got this.”

What does real friendship look like to you?

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  1. So here it is, what my friendship is like:
    This friendship is honest and pure.
    My best friend and I have been through bad and good times, sharing the same thoughts and talking for hours, or even texting a lot. She knows every little thing about me and the most awesome thing is: She looks at me and knows what’s going on. Besides all my other friends, she does have a clue about me. She has a map for my head, even though I lost mine.
    We support each other in good and bad times. We can be childish and silly, take long walks and talk about everything that moves us. Other times, we just hang out, being silent, even though we know what each other’s thinking and enjoying it We celebrate the positive things we experiencing. We say the same stuff at the same time and high five each other. I’m really, really thankful for calling this amazing woman my best friend. ’cause she’s unique. And I wish for everyone out there to have at least one friendship like mine.

    Greetings from Germany!

  2. What I think friendship is:
    A best friend does not have to be someone who is with you everyday. A best friend is someone who is there without even being there. They know exactly what to say and when to say it. They can tell just by a look what you need them to say and somehow the way they say it sounds much better than any of your other friends. Their voice and words have a power over you that no one else but the two of you understand. A best friend is someone you smile with until your cheeks hurt, laugh with until your belly is sore and your eyes are wet with tears of joy and happiness. You share all the good and bad that is going on in your life. You can dump all your problems on them without even thinking twice if maybe you are being too “needy”. Somehow your best friend and you have connected your minds so that when you are trying to think of something they immediately know what you are thinking of even if you can’t fully remember what it actually is. With your best friend you have moments where you have so much to say you aren’t sure if you are going to be able to get it all out, and other times that you just sit in a room together in silence and it is just as great the long nights of talking. Your families have basically excepted each of you as there own. A true friendship knows no distance, space or unkindness of heart. It only knows love and laughter. It does not ever feel like work to be friends, despite what people may think. Long distance friendship is probably the best thing that has ever happened to me. I have learned the value of time and how important it is to make each second count. And to make sure to capture each of those seconds with pictures so we can look back when we have kids of our own. They will think we were crazy, that is until they find someone as special and realize how lucky we are to have met. I wish everyone could find something as valuable as what we have, but I’d be lying if I didn’t say I kind of like the feeling of knowing how lucky I am.

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