Ruby's Corner

Queen Bees and Everyone Else

When you’re my age, popularity matters to some people and that can make girls really competitive and mean.

Welcome to my life! :/

We all have been/will be bullied by horrible mean girls (and mean boys, but boys are different in the way that they are mean to each other) and frankly, it really sucks to be bullied. Some people are mean without even realizing it, they’ll just look at you with this expression on their face that says: “You Are A Loser.” Or worse, they’ll say it and think it’s funny! Can you believe that?

If you think you have mean girl tendencies, here is how you can NOT be a mean girl.

1. TRY CARING ABOUT PEOPLE

Even if you don’t know the person, if you see them bummed out, be nice to them.

2.DON’T BAD TALK OR CREATE DRAMA

Talking about other people will make drama and after the drama has been sorted, even when you are friends again, it isn’t the same. I mean, you know you can’t trust someone who says things about you so why put yourself in the position where your friends won’t trust you? Just don’t do it.

3. BE TRUSTWORTHY

Don’t tell anyone’s secrets. It makes you a big mouth and nobody likes one. Plus, if you’re a blabbermouth and you have mean girl habits, you’ll use your friend’s secret as a mean-girl weapon.

4. DON’T GET INVOLVED IN DRAMA THAT ISN’T YOURS

I hate when people do this. If it’s not your drama, please don’t get involved. Seriously. It is SOOOOOOOOOOOOO annoying. Because you will say things to the people involved that will just hurt their feelings. And it’s mean. Trust me. JUST DON’T DO IT!!!!!!!!

5. DON’T SNEER AT PEOPLE

You know what I’m talking about – that death ray look that makes a person feel super-small and everyone laughs at you? That’s mean. Also add eye rolling and general annoyed expressions. When you make faces, it shows the people around you that you’re mean and even if people think it’s funny, it’s not. It’s just mean.

6. DON’T SPREAD RUMORS

The worst kind of gossip is rumors. I mean, all gossip is bad. But to spread a rumor just to make drama is horrible. Blech.

7. DON’T LIKE SOMEONE? KEEP IT TO YOURSELF

Don’t talk about it. It will get around to them and make more DRAMA. You don’t have to make fun of someone you don’t like, by the way. That’s mean and super uncool. Just steer clear of the people you’re not into or don’t think are your type. That’s a whole lot better than pointing at their brand new hat and going, “Oh, check her out!” with a cackle.

8. THE LUNCH ROOM

If you’re sitting at a table with all your friends and someone walks up that you’re not really friendly with wants to sit at your table, don’t give that person a dirty look and shoo them away. Let the person sit and eat her lunch. For extra credit, talk nicely to her!

9. GANGING UP ON SOMEONE

By the way, two against one sucks, or any version of that. If you are BFF with two other girls and one of them gets into a kerfuffle, a) don’t get involved and b) don’t side with one of the girls. Just stay away from ganging up on anyone.

10. QUEEN BEE TITLE

If someone refers to you as a Queen Bee, it means they think you are a mean girl. Don’t be all proud of it. Look in the mirror and figure out how to be your sweet self again.

What are other signs that someone is a mean girl and what’s your advice to stop being one? Tell me bout it, either here or on Twitter @rubykarp or on my Tumblr,

I hate mean girl behavior!! Ughhhhh!

Whispering girls image via Shutterstock.

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