Comments on: Post-First Date Reflections

By: Marianna Tabares

Marianna Tabares — Fri, 22 Jul 2011 08:06:59 +0000

It’s okay to feel a little bugged by it, but you don’t want to give too much energy and time to the part of it that makes you feel bad. If he returns to town soon, you should feel comfortable maybe asking him out again once he gets settled in. But also, if you’re free to date right now, definitely keep perspective by going on a few new dates. I personally think it’s a mistake to take the route of, “Screw this, I’m deleting his number!” I’ve done that in the past and it doesn’t really solve anything. Plus the guy never even knows I deleted his number (nor does he care). You are the queen in the kingdom that is your life, and you must rule with a steady mind and a strong heart.

By: Shann Sison

Shann Sison — Fri, 22 Jul 2011 05:25:10 +0000

Read this because I went on an equally awesome first date not so long ago. The thing is, he’s gone out of town now and I’m caught between trying to keep in touch and just moving on. Part of me wishes that first date didn’t happen. Is that wrong? Am I being too neurotic about this?

By: Anna E Rosas

Anna E Rosas — Thu, 21 Jul 2011 21:31:33 +0000

Thanks for sharing with us your reflections! It was a great essay.

By: Anna E Rosas

Anna E Rosas — Thu, 21 Jul 2011 21:30:57 +0000

I think that first dates, all dates, crappy dates with jester hats, have the potential to teach us something. Because if you take a moment to reflect you learn something about yourself (what you attracted to, what you non negotiable are, etc). This in turn makes a crapy date a tad less crapy!

By: Crystal Mendez

Crystal Mendez — Thu, 21 Jul 2011 04:15:10 +0000

I’m glad I came across this! I too feel the same way. I recently went out on a date and felt just as you describe. Love this piece!

By: Lauren Nespoli

Lauren Nespoli — Thu, 21 Jul 2011 03:51:13 +0000

I liked reading this! I think I recently realized that if the first date goes well, yet he doesn’t call you again afterwards that doesn’t mean you’re a failure or anything. And I definitely agree with the last paragraph too!

By: Marianna Tabares

Marianna Tabares — Wed, 20 Jul 2011 23:21:35 +0000

Gosh I hope that works. I’d love to see him again My fingers have been crossed for a while now.

By: Marianna Tabares

Marianna Tabares — Wed, 20 Jul 2011 23:20:02 +0000

YES! You’ve got the right idea. When I was younger I used to think I wasn’t complete without someone to be my “other half.” Then I learned that another person should only enhance the quality of life, but not be a major necessity or component. Maybe that’s where some of us go wrong, when we think our lives are so incomplete without someone there beside us.