I guess I am what some would call an alpha female. I was raised in a family of loud, strong personalities, so of course I developed one of my own so as not to get stomped on. My mother and my aunts were all very take-charge ladies, never afraid to kick up their heels and let loose with a heartfelt belly laugh. Hell, there is a picture floating around of my grandmother in full leathers, swilling a bottle of beer on a Harley.
Alpha female, hellraiser… same thing.
Anyway, all of my good lady friends can also be thrown into this group. You might think this would make for difficult friendships, but it actually makes them perfect. Let me tell you why.
1. If you’re a lump of a girl, I will walk all over you.
Harsh, but true. If you don’t have opinions or open your mouth to express them, I will grab you by the hand and leave you looking something like this:
You will be the little girl with the pigtails whose feet are not touching the ground because I am moving at the speed of light. Never mind that dude in front, he’s not with us.
When you have a group of alphas, it’s a constant give and take. It’s a neverending exchange and for that reason, we never get bored. Sometimes other people can’t keep up, but that’s okay. That’s why we have each other.
2. There is no cattiness.
Well, okay. Maybe not zero cattiness, because I mean, we are still girls, after all. However, for the most part, if an alpha girl has a problem with you, she will tell you to your face and you will then discuss it and work it out. There is none of the passive aggressive behind-the-back whispering while they smile in your face. No, sir. With my friends, everyone knows where they stand and when problems arise, they are worked out post haste.
3. We build each other up.
When you’re out with a group of strong ladies, there is nothing that can keep you down. A few weeks ago, I was out with two of my girlfriends at this beachfront bar in Carlsbad. We’re sitting on the patio and a guy comes out to smoke a cigarette. My friend said something to him in an attempt to make conversation and he gave her a really s**tty attitude in response. Of course, we couldn’t let that slide. That’s not to say that we like, curbstomped him or anything, but we were all ready with some quick, good natured jabs in his direction. You can’t be rude to one of us without getting picked on by the rest. We are of the pack mentality, and we take care of our own.
Obviously, I know that not everyone is like this and I’m certainly not discounting anyone else’s friendships. But seriously? Love my alpha ladies. Love.
xo – Heather