Teaspoon of Happy More Than Half-Full Sarah May Bates

Be a positive force. Pollute the well with rainbows and hearts! And as soon as the dark tar of negativity enters your body, grind it up and get it out. Because whether you think so or not, what you project effects everyone around you and your energy can create a chain reaction for the better. We are all sensitive beings exchanging all sorts of signals all the time. Even though the world effects you as heavily as it does sometimes, you effect the world around you right back.

Being positive will change the world a lot more than you think it will. I used to feel paralyzed by the badness in the world, thinking, “What’s the point? Why even try to help a problem when it is never going to stop it – people are cyclically spreading badness and pain.” But they are not just doing that – sometimes it just seems that way, and a constant barrage of terrible news can really get to most of us. I don’t know much about this book in its entirety but I was moved by a line I heard quoted from the Koran that said something to the effect of, “If you save the life of one man, you save all of mankind.” (I replace man with person of course.) This to me profoundly answers the question, “Why even try?” Because hope and love are alive and they are the true foundation of the human soul that can heal all. If you can become a positive influence in this universe, it multiplies and reverberates in ways you cannot know or see or quantify. Love is what makes us different and amazing and in the face of all the conflicts and fears and fighting, it’s the only thing that matters. We are all born good but we sometimes become dulled and lost on our path. Keep the light bright and you help change the world. Your smile, your energy, your kindness soothes and cures the pain of others in the most subtle of ways. It reminds a stranger that we are all good, people mean well, and the future is bright.

I thank all those who remain positive despite their hardship and remain kind despite the brutality of others. Thank you for the people that hold elevators for strangers. Let people in, in traffic. That get screwed by people that are just out to scam them but then spend a lot of their energy evaporating that rage and letting it fly out the window. The people that don’t think money is the most important thing in the world. That want to be responsible, respectful and to uproot their prejudices. The people that smile at you when passing in a hallway at work. The people that tell you when they like something you’re wearing. The people that compliment you when you did something really great even though they are helplessly jealous. The people that admit they’re jealous. The people with generous laughs. The people that are somehow magically never unkind. People that weep at beauty. The people that celebrate their friends when they win the lottery, and they mean it. The people that are kind to the the troubled, even when they are afraid. Because you don’t know it, but you are saving the world by existing. You represent the pure good we are all born with but that can get dulled along the way. I believe we can all get there and work to stay there, and if you tune your body and mind toward peace and balance this center inside you will grow stronger. It’s like there’s an evil force trying to pollute us all and in order to get rid of that crap you’ve gotta cough it out like ash. Whatever you do don’t spread it. There’s a lot of terrible stuff going on out there, and you know what? It’s always gonna be. You can either contribute to it or be a force for good. I firmly believe whatever you put out there will come back to you, and however you treat others they will be more inclined to treat you back. It’s fun to be nice. And it makes you feel awesome. You matter.

Happy Sunday and as always, I love to read your comments. xo Sarah

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  1. that was so nice! thanks for writing it :)

  2. I truly look forward to all of your posts, and I especially love this one! Thanks for all the positive messages :)

  3. Your posts consistently make my day! Thank you for this reminder to be positive. Sometimes it’s much easier to sink into the murky darkness but we get a much greater reward when we look at the bright side of things.

  4. A thousand times, yes! I’ll never forget the day my step-daughters said, in awe, “You always say thank-you to cashiers.” When did that become note-worthy?

  5. I really love what you said about not spreading negativity and how you can either contribute to all the evil in the world or be a force for good. i don’t think people realize that meanness and rudeness is contributing to the evil. it’s so easy to blame the world for your bad day or taking things personally. and people (even including me) find it easier to be a negative nancy than someone who spreads warmth. I want to be that warm person! It’s good to see so many people like me inspired by this article! Thank you for sending out the positive energy. (:

  6. XD :-D :-)

  7. Recently I had hit a new time low and I was really frusterated and sad, I had no idea what to do. So I just decided to push through the pain and do the things that made me happy and remind myself there are only so many things I can control. So I started second job hunting everyday and using what little gas money I had from my other job only for job hunting. Otherwise I stayed at home reading, writing, blogging, watching movies or spending time with my family. And when I was at work I focused fully on my job and trying to be upbeat as possible. Eventually things have started to turn around and I am in such a better mood I find myself. Sure I’d love to go out to eat or go to the movies with friends but I can’t control my financial situation until I get a second job but my friends come over and we watch movies or doing other free thrifty things. And all the negative feelings I felt drifted away, I am now getting a promotion soon at work and have an interview at Apple tomorrow. So after reading this it really hit at home, because its so true. If you just remember you can only control so many things in life, let go of what you cant (which is usually a lot of the bad) and whatever is left over turn into a positive like how even though times are hard I’m still thankful I at least have a one job when a lot of people out there dont. Just what I needed on my sunday esp when I am working a double at my restaurant, which is good more hours but im soo tired haha. I love reading your posts Erin, you are one of my fav authors on here and many of your posts you have written in the past are actually what helped me get through my slump, so thank you :)

    • Lol damn girl, you are an inspiration to all! So glad to hear the universe is lighting a path for you, good luck in your interview!! I know the thing I’d look for is a person that is a pleasure to be around in good times and bad. I have a feeling you will do great! X

    • Sorry I meant to type Sarah** hahaha, my friend Erin has the same last name bates as you thats why I put erin, see IM TIRED :X ooyyy <33 :p

  8. You are so insightful! I love your posts – they seem to always come when I really need it. Thanks for your thoughts!

  9. I love this. My grandmother was the embodiment of this post. I only hope to be half as much as the person she was. I strive everyday to be the person you are thanking. I would also like to thank those people in the world. When I’m walking down the street or driving down the road and someone smiles at me or waves from behind the steering wheel; it makes my day!

    • SO TRUE – me toooo I think that all the time. I’m glad you feel the same, and I think that just your intention alone is the reason you are already just like your grandma. xo

  10. what a feel-good article <3

  11. I’ve been having a real tough week. A lot of troubles at work and just generally I’ve had a lot of built up frustration and been trying so hard to remain positive through all of it. This article had me in tears by the end of it because it is just such a force of positive energy. Thank you so much for posting this, you may have just prevented a major meltdown on my part. All my gratitude is extended towards you at this moment.

    • Awe Erica you made my heart warm up and my cheeks hurt from smiling. Thank you for your comment – and I am so glad you felt this way. :)

  12. Dear Sarah, thank you for the positivity injection! We all need that once in a while. With your delightful teaspoons of happy, you are definately qualified as one of those people, the ones who smile at you in hallways at work, you know.. I’ll make this an official moto: “Be a positive force” =)

  13. Sarah – I love your posts. A lot. You would be a kick-ass therapist. There’s so much I want to say in reply, but it’s all tangled in my head. Anyway, thank you.

  14. For a person I have never met, I sure do love you very much

  15. I had to forward this and remind all my friends that life really isn’t as hard as we think it is. =D

  16. Thanx so much Sarah! What an amazing start for the week ahead! Let’s all be a constant reminder to each other! xx

  17. Love it.

  18. This is truly amazing. I was having a long week conversation with my friend about being an optimist to save the world. So we are going out there and saving the world just because we can! And I know we can influence others to do the same! <3

  19. This is beautiful, thank you so much for sharing this. Sometimes it’s hard to not be negative and cynical about the world. It’s good to be reminded that the feelings we emit really do affect those around us, so we should choose our words and our actions carefully and wisely.

  20. You wouldn’t happen to be Buddhist would you? Love it the way you’ve written it here – thank you. :-)