As I’ve said before, revenge can be an extremely effective motivator. When someone breaks up with you, a part of you wants to be the first to start a new relationship and “beat” your former flame to the punch even though you were never competing against each other to begin with. When you’re laid off or abruptly fired, you hope to have an even better opportunity immediately, all the while talking about how it all worked out for you and not the other party involved.
Though powerful at first, revenge is a poisonous force that can bring the ugly out of an otherwise admirable individual. I’ve never actually met rebellious singer Miley Cyrus, but after she spouted some pretty vengeful stuff at a recent appearance, I walked away with a bad taste in my mouth. It didn’t matter that she was met with cheers and applause by those in front of her. Her words came across as angry, smug and toxic for someone with a tremendous amount of success thanks to hard work and lively stage presence.
Prior to belting out her wildly popular hit “Wrecking Ball” at a club last week, Cyrus went on a rambling tangent about shoving her musical recognition in the faces of people who have wronged her, “particularly one,” possibly singling out former fiance Liam Hemsworth, “And every time you get in your car, you’re going to hear my f–king song on the f–king radio, you piece of s–t. That’s right. And then I’m gonna take all my clothes off, I’m gonna sit on a big, giant d–k — sometimes two — I’m gonna swing around, and then I’m gonna hold the record for the most-watched music video on Vevo. So then — you know, you can tell a lot about a person — I think you can tell how big their d–k is by how much confidence they have usually, and if I was a dude I’d probably have a really big d–k, ‘cause I feel really good about myself now. So I’m gonna tell those motherf–kers that broke my heart, particularly one, to suck my fat d–k and to enjoy hearing this song for the rest of your life. This song is called ‘Wrecking Ball.'”
I get it. Heartbreak is debilitating, and it can make you believe you won’t be able to carry on anymore. I don’t know the pain of a tarnished engagement. I haven’t even been engaged before. But I do know that Cyrus once believed this was the man she was going to marry, and it’s very sad to me that she harbors such rage for a guy she thought she’d spend the rest of her life with.
After Cyrus’ spiel made the rounds on the Internet, she took to Twitter to do some damage control, “I don’t usually respond to tabloidy stuff but this isn’t something I want being spread around. It sounded hateful but not what I meant. I never want hateful things being said about those I care about … I was just tooooo turnttttt up.”
We all say things we don’t fully mean, but this took place in public, and with millions of Twitter followers and all eyes on her 24/7, she should have known her emotionally charged monologue was going to get out. She can preach about the wonders of love all she wants, but cannot deny spreading hate of her own in that moment. Apologizing would have been wiser than simply expecting others not to take such remarks seriously. When you hear something like that, you inevitably feel someone else’s pain, which she’s clearly still experiencing and trying to work through.
I hope Cyrus continues to thrive because it’s obvious she’s a talented recording artist who loves to do her own thing. I was surprised by her image 180 last year, but like how much fun she seems to be having. She doesn’t need her tunes to top the charts to haunt her ex-boyfriends forever. She should want to keep hustling and selling albums for her own sake. When it comes to spreading hate, it doesn’t get much sadder than wishing to make someone else feel miserable forever.
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