Ruby's Corner Middle School Mean Girls and Judging Each Other Ruby Karp

So for this weeks Ruby’s Corner, I decided to shake things up a bit. This was a topic where I really wanted my voice to be heard. It was a problem that needs to be solved and I thought you should really hear what I meant and how much I cared for the topic.

There are two bits to this video. At first, I wanted to focus on how everyone hates middle school because of mean girls. In the second part, I talk about how girls criticize other girls about how they dress and wear their makeup. This is not a topic to joke about. In magazines, someone who I think is really pretty will be looked on badly because they are “overweight”.

On Facebook, there is a photo of a skinny girl and a girl who is not as skinny with their bellies standing next to each other. On their tummies is written, “I’m beautiful”. Let me remind you, it was on both of their tummies. It had over 100,000 likes. But yet, those people who liked the photo still think the skinny girls are the more beautiful ones. This needs to stop. I normally don’t say this but, please share this one. It is a very important topic to me that i feel more people should hear about.

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  1. Oh Ruby, I wish more girls had your self confidence and insight.
    I write responses to yahoo answers and the sad sad things being asked by young girls is too much sometimes. “Do I look pretty?” “How come I get made fun of?” “help me please”. Young teen girls feel a lot of pressure to look and act a certain way and it is destroying their self esteem! Often these “mean girls” are the most insecure ones.

  2. I love reading Ruby’s stuff. She is amazingly mature for her age, and although I am 4 times as old, there is always something I relate to, either through personal experience (as in this piece) or through the eyes of my 12 year old niece. This one was great as always. Good job Ruby!

  3. I just graduated eigth grade, from a tiny catholic school. Even thought there were only nine other girls in my GRADE, this still happened. I guess it’s a microcosm, but it just makes me sad.

  4. I really love this (: It is frustrating how girls can be so cruel. Honestly though, I never cared too much. In the long run, those silly comments don’t matter. I’ve had a lot of experiences with mean people. Some things can really hurt. When I was in Middle School, I was just getting into makeup and so I was experimenting with it. So I tried different things, some of which were really bright or reeeally dark. And I remember people being mean about it (mostly girls). But I learned later on that everyone says immature things in MS that they regret later on. So, it’s important to also just be forgiving to those mean girls.

  5. This is a really big topic for a young girl but she knows it better than any of the people I know. And I couldn’t agree more with what she says. Just because a person wears or does something a certain way and completely out of the ordinary doesn’t give anyone the right to shame them. People who are too much of a conformist about it aren’t even worth the time. :)

  6. This is a really big topic for a young girl but she knows it better than any of the people I know. And I couldn’t agree more with what she says. Just because a person wears or does something a certain way and completely out of the ordinary doesn’t give anyone the right to shame them. People who are too much of a conformist about it aren’t even worth the time.

  7. I completely agree. And there is nothing wrong with your makeup, if you were wearing any in that video. When I was in the eighth grade, before you were even born, I was made fun of for everything you stated. I didn’t dress well, and I didn’t have a lot of self-confidence, which those mean girls knew and used it to their advantage. I just hope that all those girls out there who are picked on persevere, and realize there’s no shame in being you.

  8. Let me start off by saying, I LOVE your purple bow!!

    Okay so…
    I love being a girl… I love the clothes, I love the make-up, I love getting the hair done, I love the purses, and I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE, LOOOOOVE the shoes (especially high heels).
    What I don’t love? How we’re always so mean to each other, and I just don’t understand why. It seems like girls these days can’t even make it through a conversation without criticizing someone else’s appearance. Some believe they’re just harmless comments… NOT! These “harmless comments” go a LONG ways!!
    Like Thumper says, “If you can’t say something nice… don’t say nothing at all.”

  9. I love this post. It’s so insightful! I will honestly never understand why girls are mean to each other. And sadly, I don’t think it ever ends. I had those experiences in high school AND college. Now I’m 24 years old and still sometimes experience it. I think it just comes down to insecurities. Girls become insecure when threatened, even by the littlest thing. I think it school, it leans more towards power. They see someone they feel they are more powerful then and do everything in their power to abuse that power. Mean girls are…well…mean but I’m not sure how to go about helping them see the error in their ways.