So, here’s the deal. I have kind of a tricky situation on my hands. In September I’m attending, and helping organize, my company’s summer picnic. We will be going to an MLB game and beforehand we have an area of the park reserved to eat, drink, be merry… that sort of thing. I went through somewhat of a nasty breakup a few months ago, the wounds from which have not healed just yet. The kicker here is that my ex-boyfriend happens to also be a co-worker. And he has decided to bring his new girlfriend to the company picnic, even though he knows that I have to be there because I’m helping organize it. My question for you is, what the heck do I wear?! I want to look cute (obviously) but I certainly don’t want to look like I’m trying too hard, nor do I want to look out of place for a baseball game or a work function. Please help! Thanks!
Hi Lindsey! Thanks for writing. With all this “ex” talk, I felt the need to call on our girl Marissa A Ross to get some “how to deal with the ex” advice. So here we go, a Marissa Explains It All & Style Me Grasie collabo… take it away, Marissa!
Eek! Nothing worse in the post-breakup universe than the dreaded shared-social-situation with The Ex. But fear not! See, step one of dealing with an ex in shared social situations is to look like a babe, which Grasie is going to cover thoroughly. But don’t make the mistake of thinking this is to get back at him or make him jealous because this is for you. Dress like a babe because it makes you feel confident and good about yourself. The last thing you need is self-doubt when walking into these situations.
The next step is take someone with you if you can but don’t take a dude. If you’re still hurting from this breakup, you don’t want to take a date because there’s a 50-50 chance you may have some emotional flare-ups. I would take a good friend that not only you can have fun with but is also someone you can take into the bathroom for a quick vent and pep talk.
In terms of interacting with them, don’t avoid them. That just makes things awkward. I would just kind of chill out until something organically happens where you have to talk to them, in which case, be friendly. You don’t need to have a full on conversation with them or anything, but just be nice and then move along.
For me in these situations, it’s really hard not to be resentful, jealous or compare myself to my ex’s new girlfriend. You have to squash these thoughts. As soon as you start thinking negatively about you, him, or her, give yourself a mental time out. Breath deeply and remember the following things:
- You’re better off. For real. I know it may not seem like it but you are because you guys broke up. That means there is someone better for you out there. Be thankful that you’re out of that situation because now you are open to finding someone better suited for you.
- You know your strengths, you know your path, you have everything you need and you’re amazing. Basically, you have it all. Don’t ever forget it. (I know, I said this in one of my other articles but whatever, it’s mad true!)
- Screw ‘em! Life’s too short to give a hoot!
Thank you for your wise words… so on point. Okay, Lindsey, let’s talk fashion. Being that it’s a baseball game and work function let’s go for casual chic. Nothing too revealing, but something cute, stylish and form fitting.
Try a pretty blouse, tunic or cami instead of your everyday tee. Then pair it with a great pair of fitted jeans or pants in a sleek color, like the rose colored JCrew ones below. For shoes, go casual but fun! If you can do a wedge without wobbling or being uncomfortable, that’s a pretty option. But two other ways to go that are equally fab are a short boot with a small heel or a printed flat.
All the looks below coincide with each other to create a complete look! Add your favorite accessories (without going too bling) and voila you are one hot chica ready for anything!
Have fun, be brave & Happy Dressing!
- French Connection Tunic at Asos $48 On Sale
- Urban Outfitters Pins and Needles Cami $69
- Zara Blouse $50
- Aldo Checo Crochet Peep-Toe Bootie $60
- Steve Madden Pembrook Boots $160
- Urban Outfitters Ecote Flats $29