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I got laid off a week after my 30th birthday — and I learned who I am outside of work

Welcome new opportunities.

Sometimes losing your job may actually be a blessing in disguise. When you’ve worked in your field for as long as you have, your vision on things may become cloudy. My family and friends were quick to remind me that this could be the chance to switch careers if I felt like it. If my heart wasn’t in it, then what better time to make a career change?

But job hunting in my city reminded me that career opportunities were scarce. For every one position I felt was a great fit, there were a dozen that didn’t align with my professional background at all. It was then that I realized I had to expand my search, and consider other positions that I normally wouldn’t have entertained in the past. Even if I didn’t find the perfect job any time soon, it was nice to know that there are always other options.

Your job (or lack thereof) does not define you.

I have been employed since I was 17. Whether this was in the form of an internship or even a part-time job, there was rarely a time in my life after high school graduation when work wasn’t a part of the equation. At one point in 2015, I had a full-time job, and decided that it wasn’t enriching enough — and happily freelanced for three other clients during the year.

When my family and friends asked me why I was working so much, I didn’t really have any other response to give them, other than the fact that I wanted to. Looking back, I may have inadvertently used my career as a way to spurn the traditional route of relationships — and ended up dating my work instead. It was who I was.
Aside from my career, I felt I had nothing else to offer as a major conversational piece whenever one of my friends would update me on their progressing dating life, or whenever a distant relative would ask when I would be getting married. My career was always my safeguard.

But if I was no longer working, then who was I?

I wondered if I had to pull an Eat, Pray, Love type of thing — thankfully, I didn’t have to go that far for a little soul searching. I spent my time off getting to know myself outside of work. What would I like to do now that my hours aren’t occupied with projects? I had endless possibilities — yet I found myself just relaxing and enjoying the free time with my dogs.

Essentially, I was the same person — I just did a little more traveling than I did before. I also used the time off to visit family on the east coast. I divided my time between California and Massachusetts for the next six months — a feat only made possible because of my humble savings account that helped me cover airfare during this time. More importantly, I could do this because I was able to stay rent-free with my parents or family members during every visit, for which I’m very grateful.

At the end of the day, people will react to being laid off in their own way.

I’m by no means an expert on this subject, but what I can offer is a few words of empathy.

Whether you decide to start job hunting immediately, change your career path, or welcome the unexpected time off with open arms, there isn’t a right or wrong answer on how to deal. As regretfully cliche and cheesy as it is, what matters is what makes you happy.

MK Pecjo is a digital marketing strategist, where she utilizes engagement strategies to contribute growth along social media platforms for her clients. When she isn’t working, MK can be found reading and spending time with her two dogs, Pepper and Lulu.

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