Summer is winding down and autumn often brings a series of transitions that can lead to the unfortunate dissolution of summer love. People go back to school or move to a new school. Or maybe they graduate and find jobs and don’t come back to school at all. Vacations end and the summer idyll that served as the perfect backdrop for romance can give way to the jarring question, “What do we do now?”
If you feel as though you might be headed for an end of summer breakup, you’re actually probably going to be okay. According to Facebook data, you’re far more likely to split after Christmas or right before Spring Break.
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But in the event that your romance does come to a tragic end, I highly recommend picking up It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken: The Smart Girl’s Break-Up Buddy written by Greg Behrendt (author of He’s Just Not That Into You) and his wife Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt. While it can be cheesy at times, the book takes you through the various stages of a breakup and offers solid advice with bracing perspective.
There’s a lot of tough love. They tell you that eventually, you have to shower, wash your hair and start hanging out with your friends because he isn’t calling you. But there’s also a lot of encouragement and practical coping mechanisms that don’t involve drugs, Ben and Jerry’s or sex with strangers. Greg and Amiira also offer very painful details from their worst breakups to show you that life goes on, and one day, whether you marry or not, you will be happy.
I picked up a copy four years ago after what was, to this day, the worst breakup of my life. Crying on the floor until the ungodly hours of the morning and watching “Forgetting Sarah Marshall” a couple times a day was helping, but not really doing enough. This book did the trick. And Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants-style, I passed this on to girlfriends and guy friends alike who have had a hard time dealing with their breakups.
So if you are considering ending a summer romance or feel that you may be on the verge of a breakup, pick up a copy (and a bottle of wine) today!
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