In Defense of The Pixie Jessica Tholmer

I have some things to say. “Oh, great,” you are probably thinking. Don’t worry, you will like it. It is about a woman’s right to choose, though this particular argument has nothing to do with politics. This one is not about birth control, funny movies or rough family lives.

This time, I want to talk about short hair.

Recently in the news, there has been a whole bunch of reports surrounding the Pixie Cut. Pam Anderson did it (and looks incredible), Beyoncé did it, Jennifer Hudson did it and our best friend Jennifer Lawrence did it. I read an article the other day that lit a fire of rage inside of my body, for it was written by a man who, in all sincerity, explained why women should not cut their hair off.

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It’s a funny thing, you know? Men believing that we care what they think.

The first time I cut my hair really short, my heart had just been broken into a million cliched pieces. Two bottles of pink wine and a sleepover with my hairdresser/soulmate resulted in the best decision I had made up until that point in my life.

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Maybe that’s dramatic, but there is something about a haircut. There is something about starting over, trying new things, expressing yourself, breaking out of monotony that a haircut can offer. With every snip, I felt like I got rid of who I was when I was with my ex. And it felt incredible.

Later on, when we got back together, he told me he couldn’t stand to see me after that haircut because I looked so sassy and beautiful and it made him miss me. Mission accomplished. I mean, I did not do it for him, but I certainly won’t lie about feeling powerful hearing him lament his loss of me and that radical haircut.

I always joke that my hair represents my current emotional state, and though that is kind of true, I have reformed how I view my lovely, luscious locks. Men do not define my hairstyle, only I do. I don’t care if men are more or less attracted to me. I do not care if men think women with pixie cuts are less attractive than women with gorgeous, lengthy, thick hair. It should not matter to them, and it certainly should not matter to you.

I read a statistic about men preferring straight haired women to curly haired women. I admit that I have noticed an increase in male attention when my hair is straight, but I will also let you know–proudly–that I absolutely favor men who wrap my curls around their fingers when they kiss me. Real men like curls. Real men like short haired women, or long haired women, or women in general. Real men should support women. Regardless.

Mixing it up with your hairstyle is fun and important for growth, in my very biased opinion. Never let a man make you feel bad about that.

And if he suggests you need to lose ten pounds, kick him to the curb of your life.

It is outright disrespectful to speak on a woman’s haircut, especially if you are a man. No ifs, ands, or buts about it.

Jennifer Lawrence looks as perfect as she always has.

Pixies up!

Featured image via eonline, Pamela Anderson pixie cut image via abcnews.

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  1. Applause!! I read something the other day that said pixie cuts told men “This I about me, not you”. I, too, have received more compliments since I decided to cut off my hair. I didn’t do it to impress anyone-I did it because I wanted to try something new! I absolutely love my spunky pixie, and if a guy doesn’t like me because of my short hair then he needs to check his priorities. SHORT HAIR DONT CARE!

  2. I don’t know why people are hating on the pixie all of a sudden! It’s not like it JUST became a popular hairstyle. And it really is liberating. As a kid I got teased for having short hair and I thought I looked like a boy so I kept it really long and dreaded haircuts for the longest time. It doesn’t help having a deeper voice for a girl either. My hair eventually grew down to my lower back and I kept it that long even as a year-round swimmer. By the end of high school I cut it all off and it was the best style decision I’ve ever made. It’s longer now, mostly because I rocked the pixie for so long I needed a change, but I’d go back to it any day.

  3. Its totally fine with me to have short hair. Rules out all the dudes who joined the he-man woman hater club. I man who finds a woman with short hair attractive, proves that he looks beyond society standards created by media. Weed out the superficial a$$holes, I say!

    Yes long hair is sexy, but short hair is edgy and elegant at the same time.

    P.S. to that dude I would kill for Jennifer’s body not because of her weight but because of her rare extreme hour glass shape she has. Its a dying breed.

    • P.P.S. I have gotten more attention from guys since cutting it and I felt sexier when it was shorter than it is now. . .but I am growing it back out now :)

  4. I got my hair chopped for a similar reason ( I’d been wanting a pixie cut for ages too though) and I felt so much better after I did it. I love it and it’s so different and fun :) The worst part is though when young girls look you up and down and stare because they’re trying to work out if you’re a girl or a boy and you’re like ‘girls can have sort hair just like boys can have long hair, everyone has a choice – it’s hair’. It’s even worse when the parents tell them to stop staring or pointing and don’t bother to explain that girls can have short hair too.
    Surprisingly, lots of women have commented on it with one saying ‘I’ve got hair envy’…it gives you a wee boost. and makes you love the pixie even more. My boyfriend loves it and I love it! Best haircut I’ve ever had and I’ve had some bad ones!

  5. I grew up in the Philippines where long straight hair is definitely found more beautiful than short hair for girls. The first time I cut off all my locks was right after high school, like the day before graduation. And let me tell you, I did not expect it to be so emotional. Not the cutting of the hair, I didnt have a Top Model meltdown. But the way people treated me after I got the haircut was really tough being 17 years old. People teased me and my sexuality because of the short hair, and would tell me “You look so much prettier with long hair”. It was so stupid, because I didn’t do it for anyone else but me but people made sure to make me feel horrible about my decisions.

    Hair is hair, and I’ve had almost every haircut imaginable but whenever I saw pictures of cute pixies I would get so jealous. I’ve always been absolutely shocked by girls growing out their hair because that’s how their partner likes it even if they hate it. I love my pixie, it is me. And maybe I’ll grow it out again someday, but that’s completely up to me. Peoples needsta mind dey own biznis.

    PIXIE UP!

  6. Just one week ago I got my first ever pixie cut and I loved it from the very beginning. This past week has made me love it even more, because every time a guy/old man at work sees it and is horrified by it, I do a victory cartwheel and cackle in my mind. The old men really hate it, and it make me so happy, because I really hated the mild sexual harassment I received when I had long hair.

  7. I have had pixie cuts over the years and I think it is a great look. It is fun and easy. I currently have a pixie cut that truthful wasn’t by choice. I shaved my head and lost all my hair because of chemo. I now have about 4 months of growth that is a cute little pixie cut. I love it and hate it at the same time because of the reason I have it. That being said any man that would have the nerve to write an article about why women should not cut their hairs needs to just shut his pie hole.

  8. I love this article more than words can say.

  9. This article is great. But seriously, that other article, is that for real?! That guy needs a serious punch in the junk! WTF. Long live pixie cuts! I love my long hair, but I can’t resist chopping it off every once in a while.

    • I’m in total agreement there. I cut my hair off and loved it, but decided to go back to my really long hair and am now in the process of growing it out.. But I’m sure I’ll tire of the upkeep and want to go short again. I always keep my eye our for a cute pixie (which never works since my hair curls/frizzes) or short stle.

  10. “Though every chick on the planet begs “Can we just be best friends? Why is she perfect?” you’d only bang her if she lost ten pounds. Now, shedding some lbs. might not even do it. Should have cut her dessert instead of her hair.”

    “Girls, I’m here to save you from yourself”

    “You might look at Rihanna and think “That’s edgy, that’s worth aiming for,” but she also rocks the “I just got punched by my boyfriend” look, so her judgment is questionable at best.”

    I have never been more angry at an article. Who the hell does this guy think he is?! What an asshole.

  11. Folks oughta wear their hair the way they want. period.
    why is that even a discussion?

  12. Love this! I just cut all my hair off, well over a foot, into what is by far my favorite look. My pixie cut has been amazing, and one of the better decisions I’ve made in regards to my hair. However, men feel the need to constantly let me know what they think and what they prefer. To which I always have to remind them, my decision to cut my hair wasn’t made with them in mind. I did it for me, and the results have been glorious.

  13. Pixie girl here! GO GO GO! :) Just had my haircut a week ago and I can’t be happier. Oh, and about what boys may think: my boyfriend loves it!

    It’s all about doing what we really want to do. You wanna cut your hair? Do it! I mean, It’s just hair.

    Amazing article girls ;)
    Kisses from Madrid, Spain!

  14. The exception proves the rule and Jennifer Lawrence is always an exception.

    • Annnnd someone missed the point. Pretty disappointing comment on an altogether incredible article! If I had the discipline to maintain a pixie, I would totally go there, but alas, no discipline on that front.

  15. I couldn’t agree more with this article. I have been a proud pixie cut wearer for 5 years now. If you want to have your hair long, short, curly, in a mohawk, who cares – it’s your hair! I can honestly say that my husband (of 8 years, have been together 13) loves me no matter what my hair looks like. So keeping rocking the pixie cuts, hollywood, if that’s what you want to do. Hopefully it will inspire other women out there to do whatever they want to there and not worry about how they’ll be judged by men or women.

    • Ah, that was supposed to say hopefully it will inspire other women out there to do whatever they want to their hair – silly autocorrect.

  16. I love how Jennifer’s hair looks. But then again, she can do no wrong in my opinion, she is just brilliant and I want her be my friend and go out on the town with me!! :)

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