I Should Not Be Reviewing Movies

I Might Not Want To Have Kids And I Think I'm The Only One

I have been looking forward to Friends With Kids coming out for a while now because Jennifer Westfield wrote, directed, produced and starred in it. That is so many verbs and I love supporting lady-filmmakers. Plus, all my best friends are in it. Maybe they don’t know they are my best friends, but they are. Seriously, Chris O’Dowd, Jon Hamm, Kristen Wiig and Maya Rudolph! It’s like a Bridesmaids reunion! Except, not. This movie runs on a very different comedy note than Bridesmaids does, but I still really liked it. In fact, it was one of those movies that really grew on me as it marinated in my brain-space during the next few days.

The story revolves around Julia (Jennifer Westfield) and Jason (Adam Scott), who are platonic besties who decide to have a baby together after watching their friends’ post-kid marriage dissolve. I can definitely relate in a major way to this story, especially ending up in far different places than your high school and college friends. The majority of my long-time friends are married and have kids. In the beginning, I always felt left-out. And then I felt like I wasn’t being a good friend because somehow, me feeling left-out equated to me not being happy for them, which wasn’t true at all. I wanted to tell them that even though I don’t have opinions about strollers, I still wanna be BFFs. But their lives became kid-centered, like they should when you have a baby.

The other day, one of my friends posted on her Facebook page that her baby keeps pooping in the tub. Do you know how seriously far away from that world I am? I mean, this girl was one of my BFFs in high school! How did we end up in such drastically different places? She has a family now and does grown-up stuff, like choose a pediatrician. Sometimes I look at my friends’ lives and I feel so jealous of them. I am fully aware that I chose the life I have, and the majority of the time I love my life. But there are definitely times when I get worried that all my big plans aren’t going to pan out like I anticipate. What if I’m doing it wrong?

In fact, and I feel a twinge of guilt even writing this statement, I don’t think I want to have kids. And sometimes I feel really bad about it. Shouldn’t I want to have kids? I am a woman, isn’t that what I was made for? I mean, I would never say never, and maybe I am just going through a career-focused time in my life. But I’m a pretty rational person and if this is a phase then it’s a long one, because I have felt this way for more than a hot minute. Am I alone? I seriously don’t know anyone else who doesn’t want kids.

Alas, don’t cry for me, internet, because this story has a happy ending. In Friends With Kids, Megan Fox plays MJ, a dancer/actress who doesn’t want kids. She plays the character that I relate to the most. This is big for me, because I never get to relate to ‘the hot one’.

You should see this movie if: you have kids. Or, if you don’t have kids.

I wanna know what did you think of Friends With Kids? Is there anyone else out there who maybe doesn’t want kids? And who is excited for The Hunger Games in two weeks?