How To Deal with Uptight ParentsAutumn Frances

Hey everyone! My name is Autumn Frances. I’m 15 years old and I’m here to talk to you about pestering parents. You see, as we grow up, it seems as if our parents become harder and harder to manage. They always want to know where we are going, who we hang out with, and everything in between! My parents are nowhere near an exception! In fact, I’ve been told by my friends that my parents are the strictest out there. So here are some simple tips on how to deal with these precarious situations.

How to get yourself out of trouble

You see, there is really only one way to avoid getting in trouble with the ‘rents, and this is by simply avoiding any and all problematic circumstances. By this I mean, if you’re doing something you know you shouldn’t, just stop, and back away.

How to avoid arguments

A quick and easy fix to any quarrel would be to just back down. For some (including myself), this is one of the hardest tips to master. This is because the kids always think they’re right! Occasionally, this just happens to be the case, but most of the time the parents have a good point. When fighting, just accept it and move on.

Always be honest

When dealing with your parents, it’s always important that you always tell the truth. By this I mean, when they ask for the full story, never leave out any details. Usually when you leave out a detail, it always comes back around to bite you in the butt. If you tell the truth the first time around, it prevents more problems from occurring.

Find activities you like to do together

Although I don’t have much in common with my stepdad, we both enjoy being outdoors. We go hiking together all the time! We get our backpacks and water bottles and head out for the day. This gives us the chance to open up to one another and enjoy each other’s company.

Randomly do chores around the house

This last tip may be a bit hard to swallow, but whenever you are getting into a little tiff, just go around the house and see what needs to be done. When I notice my parents are particularly annoyed, I run over to the kitchen and start washing the dishes. This not only gives them less work to do, but it also lets them know you are there for them.

I hope these simple tips help you and your parents out.

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  1. My goodness Rosie, I am so proud of you!! Your thoughtful words and golden heart shine through in this article. Your suggestions on how to harmonize with your parents will prove beneficial for our whole family, as well as others I’m sure! Keep your fire burning and remember that is always ok to be wrong in an argument. This is a window, a gift if you will, to process a situation and decipher the core of an issue. We love your ideas, your willful spirit and most of all your courageous nature to dive into things full force. I love this rawness about you. Your heart and thoughtfulness to others shines through in your inspiring first article!!
    Love you. Xo daddy

  2. I agree with Sara White. If you believe that not confronting your parents about their behavior, or the way they treat you in response to your own behavior is an effective way to deal with “overbearing” parents you are utterly mistaken. For parents, parenthood is a learning process. If you ever want your parents to treat you with any respect or like an adult, you need to start speaking up. Sometimes it ends with some hurt feelings, but parents will continue you treat like a child if you keep giving up like that. At least if you stand up for yourself they can understand that you are coming into your own.

    • The thing is, my parents (and others like them) would laugh at the thought of us kids not standing up for ourselves. They want you to be independent and have an opinion, but they want to avoid any disrespect. I know when to speak my mind and when to keep my mouth shut. This article is meant to help kids who have tried all their options and are only left with this. With a lot of parents these days, if you speak up to them, they will ground you and take away your freedom. On the other hand, some parents are to laid back and don’t care about what you do. I believe that there needs to be a happy medium.

    • The thing is, my parents (and others like them) won’t put up with standing up for yourself. They want you to be independent and have an opinion, but they want to avoid any disrespect. I know when to speak my mind and when to keep my mouth shut. This article is meant to help kids who have tried all their options and are only left with this. With a lot of parents these days, if you speak up to them, they will ground you and take away your freedom. On the other hand, some parents are to laid back and don’t care about what you do. I believe that there needs to be a happy medium.

  3. Very good advice! Also back down from an argument when you don’t have a leg to stand on. Sounds like your parents are raising you well.

  4. While it works out for all parties for the child to back out of an argument, it teaches the child that speaking up and taking a stance is not appropriate. This child can lose his or her voice, and may let others walk all over them. Additionally, logical argument/conversations are important ones to foster. I had very strict parents growing up, and it took years to adjust to real relationships with supervisors, coworkers, and friends. This article is written to help a child from overbearing parents, instead of calling out the inappropriate behavior of the parents.

  5. You are clearly a very mature young adult! Most people would suggest things such as ‘showing them you’re the boss of your life’ or ‘following your heart, no matter what they say’. But you understand that parents have been through some of the same things and know what should be done. You have a great head on your shoulders and I look forward to reading more of your articles!

  6. This is good advice I need this I have some strict parents

  7. This is such a helpful post! I needed this advice with my strict parents in high school, but it is still very relevant to comming home and dealing with your parents during the holidays in college! Thanks for your advice!

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