— Love and Other (Near) Disasters

How to ask out a coworker without it being weird


For better or worse, dating is one of the hardest things that most of the population willingly engages in. Yes, getting to the relationship part is fun, but there is a lot of before, during, and after moments that make even the most even-keeled people squirm.

And things can get even more complicated when the object of your affection is a coworker.

Although it’s still considered taboo in some circles, wanting to date a coworker actually makes a ton of sense! Think about it, we spend most of our week at work, which means it’s not only the place that we often end up meeting new people, but we really end up getting to know them — at their best, and at their worse.

And according to Time Magazine, lots of people agree. About 40% of survey respondents admitted to having had a workplace romance, and around 30% of workplace romances end in marriage. Those are actually pretty amazing odds when you think about it!

So the real question is, how do you go about asking out your coworker…without it being weird?

via giphy

E. Jean Carol who writes the Ask E. Jean column over at Elle had this to say on the topic of actually asking out a coworker when we reached out to her via Twitter:

“BAH! DON’T ASK. Just drop a cookie/donut/macaroon on his/her desk and say: “let’s go get coffee.”

We totally understand this approach of making it as much of a low-pressure situation as possible. You still work together, and you want to keep it professional. Plus. asking them out for coffee is great, because if they’re interested in getting to know you they’ll take you up on it. Also who doesn’t love cookies, donuts, and macaroons? (You’d probably really seal the deal if you dropped all three on their desk!).

But if they say no, take them at their word. Asking more than once will create a hostile work environment, which could jeopardize your working relationship with them.

Previous page 1
newsletter illustration

Giggles in Your Inbox