High School Through the Eyes of a Teenage Girl Romy Reiner

So far in my life, high school has been one of the toughest things to go through.  Whether your dealing with your friends, family, or yourself, I think most people (or girls) can relate to me in that high school is hard.  The sad part about this whole experience is that it just started.  I am in my second month of 9th grade and am already feeling like it won’t end.  While it is an unpleasant period in a teenagers life, I do believe that it gets better.

I am lucky in that I do have a few core best friends that I know will always be there for me, and my advice is that however hard things may get, you always have to keep a strong relationship with your best friends.  But as people and your friends get older, they change.  That’s not a bad thing because so do you, think back two years ago and remember what you looked like, what you dressed like, and what your interests were.  Of course you are not exactly the same, and change isn’t bad!  I have seen many girls try and change who they are so that they can “fit in” with a certain type of crowd, this is the bad kind of change.

Specifically this year, exclusion has been a huge factor in the pain of high school.  Sometimes when I go to eat lunch there is an open table where me and my closest friends sit, but sometimes everyone is already at a table and there is no room for me.  The awful part is that no one will make an effort to move over or sit with me at another table.  After being “rejected” at the table, one of my closest friends came over and sat down with me.  Moments like these don’t seem to be a big deal at the time, but the impact is so great because it really shows who you can trust and who is there for you.

In case things get terribly bad I suggest that you use some of these tips to help you get through your struggles.

  1. Play a sport!  It’s always a good idea to express anger or frustration through physical activity.  For example, I love playing volleyball.
  2. Be artistic, everyone has creativity and imagination in their minds, put your talents to use with music, photography, or even just sketching.
  3. Try helping others!  Are there any local animal or homeless shelters near you?  Helping someone else can really make you feel better about yourself, especially those who have fewer privileges than you.  At my school we have bake sales for different charities and causes, you could start a great sale to raise money for a charity you’re interested in.
  4. And lastly is family, I am super close with my mom, dad, and brothers, and I think being close with your family is the most important thing because they are always there for you.

If you are having a rough time right now, its okay because I am sure so many other girls are too.  Just take baby steps, and it will get better!

Xoxo

Romy

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  2. it’s true people change just to fit it, i didn’t and now when i talk to the ones who did the are all like ” why i did it?” but i’m happy that i stayed true to myself and to my true friends.

  3. Goodness! It is nice to hear that this is common. My dear daughter Sage is at the same place you are….but without the core group of friends. At least there is a one new friend she has made who is a an exchange student from China. Thank you for writing and sharing!

  4. Hey I just met you, and this is crazy, but I’m in the exact same position as you, in my freshman year and it is scary man. I was on the field hockey team and it definitely helped Segway me into the year. It’s really nice to know that there are other freshman out there who are trying to survive too. At my school, it appears that either you’re friends with upperclassman and who do fine, or you’re a nerd and forgotten. I think what I’m trying to say is thank you. So thank you.

  5. I usually packed a lunch or a snack (I ate a big breakfast and dinner, never really cared for school lunches) and preferred to read while I ate. My senior year, I was lucky enough to be on the newspaper staff and got to spend my lunch in there – and take advantage of the microwave. Newspapers and microwave meals saved my high school experience.

  6. For a cute and intelligent girl high school could be a great time. However there will be temptations. Some very attractive. You really need to keep your head straight, remain sober and set goals for your future. Enjoy the social aspects but remember who you are and where you are going.

  7. Sometimes it’s hard to hear people tell you it will get better but let me tell you, they’re usually right! I had a rough freshman year of high school as well but I made some really great friends sophomore year and the rest of high school was pretty good. Even 8 years later -gasp! I’m getting old!- two of my very best friends are from that high school group. It sounds like you’ve got this under control so keep your chin up, keep doing things you enjoy (with people you enjoy) and you’ll get through high school just fine! Besides, then you get to go to college and that’s when it gets really fun- you call all the shots then :)

  8. I actually have a very small amount of close friends in my grade. I am friendly to everyone else, but we’re not that close. All of my friends are older, so as a freshie like yourself I kind of worry about what will happen to me my senior year. We’ll get through this together Romy!! Btw– love your name. :p

  9. It gets so much better! I promise! Keep telling yourself, it’s a rite of passage :)