He Gave You What?! Annabel Acton

Gifts. We all get them and we all give them. And when it comes to giving gifts in relationships, the stakes couldn’t be higher. When it’s good, it’s great and when it’s bad, it’s disastrous. As founder of a website dedicated to offloading unwanted gifts from ex-lovers, neverlikeditanyway.com, I suddenly know more about giving-good-gift than I’d ever imagined! This week, we’re going to dive in to the wide and wonderful world of gifts bought at a drugstore. While not exactly the Tiffany’s of gift giving, it doesn’t necessarily mean your boyfriend is a scrub. Let’s have a look at the spread.

The Gift: Travel size toiletries

They probably meant:“You already have the big bottles, so I thought you’d want the little ones for all your work trips.”

How it came off: “Um… Was this the only store open on the way home?”

Now what?  The optimist in me says perhaps it’s part one of two and the ‘real gift’, like tickets to Aruba or Iceland, is on its way. If this isn’t the case, be honest. Without the dramatics, call a present amnesty and try again.

Points for trying: 2/10

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The Gift: 3-pack of tights

They probably meant: “I know you’re always putting runners in your stockings, so I’m topping up your collection.”

How it came off: “He thinks I buy my tights at a drugstore?”

Now what? Here’s your chance to flaunt your style (and maturity!) by seeing this hiccup as an education opportunity. Organize an outing to Agent Provocateur and show him what stockings are all about!

Points for trying: 4/10

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The Gift: Your Favorite Face Cream

They probably meant: “I know it’s your favorite and how you hate running out of it.”

How it came off: “He thinks I’m getting wrinkly!”

Now what? Let’s focus on the ginormous positive here: he notices your face cream. This is a big deal! Amazing, in fact! Your next move is to divert his extraordinarily attentive eye to something you really want.

Points for trying: 8/10

 

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So there you have it. Before you turn up the break up playlist, in the words of Axl Rose, perhaps all we need is just a little patience.

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  1. Wow, I really disliked this article. It comes from a super shallow place and makes all women look/sound like greedy, ungrateful snobs. Honestly, it’s not how much the gift costs that matters, it’s that your partner went to the trouble to think about what you might like that matters. Getting upset because your boyfriend didn’t go to a high-end boutique for a pair of stockings is utterly ludicrous! If a person can’t appreciate what they’re given from their significant other or be mature enough to understand that the other person was thinking about what they might like when they bought the gift, then maybe they need to evaluate what they really want out of the relationship.
    I would really like to see some serious advice for the everyday women instead of whatever this is…

  2. I think this is a great article because any chance for improving communication is a positive endeavor. There is nothing wrong with a “teaching moment.” What it seems to me is more annoying than the “gifts” is the lack of thought behind it and I for one agree that if someone does not do right in thought and deed for their significant other they deserve the “dunce cap” as it were.

  3. So many more things can be bought at a drugstore. The candy, nail polishbath sets full of lovely scented oils and creams and soaps, etc. I don’t think men sometimes know what to buy for us and it’s the gesture that counts. We all need to be a bit more appreciative too.

  4. I have never received any of those types of gifts from my boyfriends. More commonly, roses or stuffed animals, which doesn’t float my boat but it is the thought that counts. Best gift from my ex? a guitar.

  5. Well, this is the bitchiest article I’ve ever read.

    Here’s an idea: how about be thankful that your dude pays attention/buys you things/cares enough to stay with an ungrateful jerk?

    • I think you’ve misinterpreted the article; it’s not bitchy, it’s trying to improve perspective on what you’ve been given. I quite enjoyed it and it encourages you to react more positively when you could’ve been a bitch!

      • You don’t think that being hyper-critical of a man who cares about you is being a bitch? You don’t think that needing ‘tips’ on how to not be a horrible person is normal?

        No. I’m sorry, but I’m against man-bashing. They’re not stupid, they’re not useless, they don’t have pea brains. Men are feeling, thinking, brilliant humans and any gift they give you should be appreciated, not looked down upon.

  6. I really liked this article. Instead of talking about the idiocy of men like so many articles of this sort do, you showed their side and the mature way to respond. Thank you so much for this humorous but kind article! A fun read with not a single sour note. I just wish it was longer!

    • I’m awful for interpreting typical man behaviour as the end of the world; this article gave an enlightening perspective that makes you feel more grateful for what is easily assumed a blunder!

    • I agree! I wish it had been longer as well. Very nicely written.

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