From Our Readers From The Heart of a 15-Year-Old Girl From Our Readers

Bullying.  It’s a pretty common word.  We’ve all heard of it.  It has affected each and every one of us.  It happens and we don’t even realize.  Every day I hear, “Did she get dressed in the dark?” or “God, he’s such a fag” and “Go kill yourself”.   Teens reported that bullying was a problem for them more often than racism, HIV/AIDS, the pressure to have sex and was as much of a problem as the pressure to use drugs or alcohol.  It’s happened to me, it’s happened to you, all of us.  Bullying is a vicious cycle.  This isn’t something we can just brush off.  We have to face the facts.

Schools don’t do anything about it, either.  How many kids are going to have to commit suicide before they do something?  How many school shootings does it take?  Does anybody remember watching the news on April 20th, 1999?  The  Columbine shooting definitely had the attention of America.  I was 3 when it happened so it wasn’t until later on that I understood what happened.  It’s an unforgettable and heartwrenching story.  Recently, there was a shooting at an Ohio school leaving three dead and two wounded. Another five families who lost a son or daughter – a result of bullying.

Females can be very vengeful creatures.  We gossip, tease and straight up hate on each other all the time.  We have insecurities and sometimes we take it out on others.  I’ll admit, I’ve said pretty disgusting things to people.  No, I don’t do it every day. It’s just a matter of circumstance.  ANYWAYS… In 7th grade I was what you could consider a bully.  I hung out with these two girls named Jill and Sally (names have been changed).  Every day we wore our Hollister shirts and our Abercrombie jeans.  We packed our Coach purses with  makeup and hairbrushes.  We thought we were the baddest chicks in the whole school.  We were like the Plastics, basically.  We gossiped about everyone and would spend our lunch periods laughing at people.  We even made fun of people to their faces.  I knew it was wrong but I just wanted to fit in – just like every other middle school girl.  It wasn’t even worth it because I haven’t talked to those girls in years.  Looking back in retrospect, I completely regret how I acted.  I will never forgive myself for being such a cold-hearted person.

Two weeks ago, a guy who attends the same school as I do made a “Top 15 Sluts at School” list and posted it on Facebook.  Cyber bullying at its finest.  Why did he feel the need to post that?, was my first thought.  Was it rejection or insecurity?  Boys can truly be sick sometimes.  I solemnly swear they must find some great satisfaction in being total assh***s toward females.  Anyone with even the slightest bit of common sense knows it is wrong to call a girl a name or put them down.  Calling a girl ugly or a whore does not make you any cooler; in fact, it’s the biggest turn off ever. Bullying is a result of our generation not knowing how to treat others and that’s a huge problem.

The last topic I would like to touch on is discrimination against homosexuals.  Thinking about it breaks my heart.  We throw the word gay and fag around, like it’s no big deal.  “Dude, you’re so gay.” I catch people saying it all the time.  They say it like it’s a bad thing.  Of course this is just my opinion, but there’s absolutely nothing wrong with being gay!  Why do people get bullied for this?  Hating someone based on their sexual orientation is so ignorant.  We need to stray from our provincial ways and be more open minded. 40,000 homosexuals commit suicide every year.  Those 40,000 shouldn’t resolve to end their own life due to the fact they are homosexual.  Imagine how difficult life is for those who are hated because they are attracted to the same gender.  It’s their choice.  You aren’t hated because you are straight, so why should they be hated because they’re gay?  Consider that, the next time you make an ignorant comment towards homosexuals.

We are all entitled to our own opinion.  This is mine.  I wanted to tell the world how I feel about bullying.  It’s a huge problem in America.  I’m hoping that this will open people’s eyes and inspire them.  Whether you’re a college student, a twelve year old or a doctor – YOU can make a difference!  Share this with your friends, mom, kids or grandpa, PLEASE!

XOXO
Addison Fox

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  1. I can tell you from firsthand experience that bullying is a horrible experience, and it needs to stop. I was at school during Columbine, as a freshman in high school. And when I was in the eighth grade, I was the subject of bullying. I was terrorized every day I had Spanish class, by the popular kids who invited me to non-existent parties, just because I had spoken to some girl they’d labeled a lesbian the first day of school. I was new to the school, and they made my year a living hell. The breaking point came when we had a substitute teacher, and they put lotion in my hair to publicly humiliate me. They got their wish, making me cry out of embarrassment and frustration. They got in trouble by the substitute, because our actual Spanish teacher turned a blind eye to the whole situation. I have never forgotten her “ignorance.” I still wonder how I motivated myself to go to school every day, because I should have flat-out refused to, because of what these kids did to me.

  2. I happen to be in the same situation, when I was in 5th grade I made a girl life HORRIBLE among others, I guess because I felt rejected or like nobody wanted me to fit in. I never realized how negative impacts I did to that girl, she went to therapy and many other things. We are now really close friends and I am terribly sorry, doing something like that to someone, rejecting her and making her feel like I was greater than her just because I didnt want her to take my BFF away from me. Bullying, bothering someone, etc. is BAD, you feel like crap inside when you realize what you did is wrong. Sometimes we say people are weird because how they look or their sexuality, and we dont know what excellent and beautiful people they are.
    Actually today, someone brought a notebook from when we were in fifth grade and they had a question that said: “who is the weirdest person from 5th grade” and my name appear on it several times, makes me wonder why did they thought I was weird and a friend told me, everyones individuality is great! and that my whole story about feeling like a loser because of what they wrote reminded her of Lady GaGa. She might be little wacky or you may not like her but her Born This Way Foundation is incredibly good and makes you feel we are not alone. I guessed I said lots of thing but please let´s make our world less bully!:)

  3. A lot of times it feels like we just don’t know how to be nice. As silly as it sounds, we are a complaining society and there’s a lot in our lives that we don’t feel like we have control over. Only our opinions. We don’t see the instant effects of being nice and positive to people, instead we are momentarily comforted by the fact that we didn’t wear that hideous outfit or make that embarrassing comment. What we’re really thinking deep down is: “At least it’s not me today.”

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