Should I be more excited for my wedding?

[SparklyLady]

Last July I met the man of my dreams. I know that it is corny to say but I did. He is everything I have ever dreamed of, no actually better. He is the kindest individual on earth, I am sure of it, and I would be an idiot not to marry him. So last March he asked me to marry him and without hesitation I said yes

Our wedding is set for March of next year and the minute we got engaged he and my family got right to planning the event. We are living together now which has been amazing, however, I feel like I couldn't be more disinterested in anything to do with the wedding. I am more looking forward to being his wife and him being my husband but everywhere I look other girls are going CRAZY over their weddings. All the details and dresses... it makes me tired to think about it. I have never been the "little girl, dreaming about her wedding" type but I guess I always thought I would be more excited once the time came.

So what gives? Has anyone else felt this way? I know I love my fiance more than anything, that's not the question, but I feel bad asking my friends and family to pay so much for something that I am just luke warm about.

[Ptree82]

First, congratulations!

I think people have forgotten that it's more about the marriage than the wedding. Does your fiancee care if you have a big fancy party? I think you should discuss it with him and if neither of you want a big deal then keep your wedding small and intimate. It doesn't have to be a big stressful process.

[anne]

Girl planning her wedding here!

I was originally hesitant about a big wedding. I wanted a small ceremony with only our closest family so we could use our money to buy our own place immediately. However, family pressure was a huge player in our... situation. Our guest list is basically the family domino effect... invite one, invite everyone! It's insane. To be honest, I hated it because we're not a rich couple and I don't want any of our parents to pay for our wedding. After much talking, we decided to heed our parents' requests and do a family reunion style wedding. They just wanted to celebrate because they are genuinely happy about our union. We thought this would be a great opportunity to meet each other's extended families, be given gifts (haha!!!), and be sent off. So I'm kind of thinking of this as our gift to our parents.

Of course, we imposed limits: no children, no more than 200 guests, and we call absolutely all the shots.

IT IS EXHAUSTING. Our wedding is in February. We have around six months to secure everything. I've yet to find a dress... etc. We do little things everyday so we don't cram in the last few months. Thankfully, my cousins are helping me iron out the little details... and they are really into it.

Are your families paying for your wedding? What does your fiance think? Since you're still uncomfortable, maybe you should re-evaluate your plans. A small ceremony and dinner at home, perhaps? Everyone can still dress fancy but at least it's not overwhelming