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What my favorite vintage dress taught me about feminism

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Back buttons on women’s clothes were no different. Think about it: Women’s clothing was designed with the expectation that they would not dress themselves. They were treated like children, or dolls, expected to rely on others for even the most basic of tasks. When you think about it this way, the phrase ‘slave to fashion’ takes on new meaning.

That’s not to say the notion of a Marilyn Monroe type, pulling her hair to one side and telling some swarthy gentlemen, to “do me up” isn’t romantic. But it does tell you something about the changes that have taken place since Monroe was a leading lady.



Even Marilyn needs a hand.

Aside from button-down shirts, contemporary clothes are all side zippers, or easily pliable back zippers, or front buttons. They’re designed for women who can and must dress themselves.

And there are plenty of us.

Today, women are getting married later than ever —the average age, 27, is the oldest on record. Since 1952, the marriage rate has dropped, the divorce rate has spiked, and one-person households have grown over 27 percent. That means I’m not the only one leaving the house with one back button unfastened.

I am at odds with my button theory. At once it suggests that life was rich with company and generally easier in the days of back buttons. But it also suggests a reliance on others, instituted at the most basic level. I covet my independence, I have cultivated an ability to do everything from bill paying to hanging curtains and drilling door locks without relying on others. I have come to realize, through the process of living alone, that I’m surprisingly self-reliant. Maybe that’s why not being able to do something as simple as button a dress frustrates me so completely.

Another thing that happens when you wear vintage clothing: you tend to make it your own. Maybe you shorten it, you take the sleeves in, you add a necklace — you offset the old with something new. For me, that open button is my present-day stamp on a dress that once belonged to someone else. When I reach around like The Exorcist to fasten up, I think of the dress’s original owner pushing her hair to the side and saying, “do me up.” And then I think about my independence, and how being a woman has changed so much it’s impossible to wear something from our collective past without altering it in some way. And I think about how later on, when I’m out in the world wearing my dress, long after I’ve forgotten about the breeze on my back, someone, maybe another woman who lives alone, will notice my open button, and gently fasten it without saying a word. And how nice that will be.

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  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100001400651790 Fernanda Melo

    Intersting fact!!! i love this kind of post….

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=877420719 Magnolia Autumn Haskins

    I loved this article, very interesting but it still leaves me with one lingering question- “What does you dress look like?” I’m curious now.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1247048511 Itzel Coca Ríos

    Well, it’b be very kind if someone else fasten your button, except, how would you then unfasten it when you take your dress off? D:

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1191761967 Kelsey Ysasaga

    see feminism is the worst thing to ever happen to the world women should not be buttoning there own dresses its not right and i don’t understand why any one wouldn’t get married as soon as they could. every thing right about life is all fucked up men should be in charge and ladys should be pretty get married and have cute little babys.

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=573336762 Daniela Arriagada

      Is this real?


    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1636124614 Von Betelgeuse

      Do you walk around naked?

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=726831713 Karen Stamper

      Is that sarcasm I detect.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1605331345 Magdaléna Marčišová

    Great article! I love your thoughts and agree.
    Btw is it your dress on the first picture?

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=653557871 Halle Emily Elizabeth Rider-Gaunt
  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=653557871 Halle Emily Elizabeth Rider-Gaunt

    oops! accidentally posted that last link on here! sorry all.

    loved this article though, really put things in perspective, how much has changed but in a relatively short amount of time. Although I want to see said dress in all its glory!

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000165186306 Jaclyn Galinis

    You could always add a hidden back zipper under the buttons.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100003018507833 Lindsey Renee

    I have a few dresses like this. I always ask the first woman I see in public to go ahead and do it up for me :) they have never minded helping another woman out! People love to feel needed as well

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1636124614 Von Betelgeuse

    Girl, you need to go do some yoga! I have one dress that has 40 buttons on the back and it takes quite a while to button up but I’ve gotten flexible enough to do them all myself. Hooray for independence and being stubborn!

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=522715122 Rachel Hetrick

    I get the point of the article but it didn’t really work for me, because I just kept thinking that it’s not that hard to figure out a way to get your dress buttoned. Personally when I have back buttons and such that I cannot reach comfortably, I’ll turn the garment around and do some of the buttons in the front then turn it back around and finish. Also you could ask a friend as soon as you get to the event- and even wear a sweater or jacket over the dress upon arrival of you’re that conscious about the opening.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000539095145 Johanna Kok

    I do wonder if you’ve tried using a button hook?

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=726831713 Karen Stamper

    I live alone now and I’ve learned there’s certain dress styles and tops I can’t wear due to that.

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