EINTKILF Everything I Need to Know, I Learned From Ron and Hermione Jessica Tholmer

In case you don’t ever go on the Internet, you might have missed JK Rowling’s admission that she regrets pairing Ron and Hermione together, and that it should have been Harry and Hermione instead.

Yes, I am heartbroken. It’s as if the creator of Friends admitted that Rachel should have ended up with Joey, or if Nora Ephron posthumously informed us that Harry should have been with Marie and Jess with Sally. It is as if…Rose had met Cal Hockley in her Titanic heaven! Oh, I could go on and on, but I digress. This is not an argument against Rowling, it is simply another couple I shall pull lessons from because it is February, and I promised that I would focus on love this month.

But, uh, Team Romione, or Heron, or whatever the kids call them.

EINTKILF Ron and Hermione

1. Sometimes, you need someone to balance you out. 

Hermione is clean, Ron is a mess.
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Hermione is driven and focused, Ron is lazy and scatterbrained. Hermione is very serious, Ron is very goofy. Hermione is quick-witted, Ron is slow to the punch, but you know what? 

She keeps him on top of school and the adventures they end up on, and he reminds her to laugh every once in a while, consistently keeping her from being too hard on herself. Balance is key in a relationship, if I do say so myself.

2. It is okay (adorable, even) to depend on your partner. 

Even from the very beginning, Hermione was always by Ron’s side, teaching him the proper way to pronounce spells (wingardium leviosa!), helping him with his homework, and reminding him that he is just as good as everyone else. Ron needs Hermione, he even says it multiple times throughout the series.

Hermione: I’ll do the introduction.. That’s all.
Ron: Hermione, you’re honestly the most wonderful person I’ve ever met. If I’m ever rude to you again —
Hermione: — I’ll know you’ve gone back to normal..

And we all know Hermione needs Ron too, at least to keep her emotionally stable. Any time Ron runs off, either with another woman or to escape the pressures of the horcrux search, Hermione is a mess.

“After you left,” he said in a low voice, grateful for the fact that Ron’s face was hidden, “she cried for a week. Probably longer, only she didn’t want me to see. There were loads of nights when we never even spoke to each other. With you gone…”

He could not finish; it was only now that Ron was here again that Harry fully realized how much his absence had cost them.

3. A defensive man is a sexy man.

(Sorry I just called Ron Weasley sexy.)

When that twerp Draco Malfoy calls Hermione a “filthy little mudblood,” for the first time, Ron immediately steps up, attempting to curse him, even with his very broken wand. Because nobody insults Hermione in front of Ron! Even if the spell backfires, the thought still counts.
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If there is one thing I love, it is a defensive man. Though I am more than able to stand up for myself, I much prefer my man to step up in my honor first. (My man, not just any man. That would irritate me.) 

Equal opportunity, of course. I would do the same thing, as Hermione can often be found defending Ron. Loyalty. Sigh.

4. Jealousy is alright.

You know Ron’s face when he sees Hermione with Viktor Krum at the Yule Ball?
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In fact, Ron’s jealousy the entirety of the Yule Ball is pretty outrageous, considering that he should have asked Hermione to the dance in the first place. I cannot help but find it endearing though. Ron may be daft, but he was never not interested in his best friend. 

The jealousy is not one-sided either. Hermione is openly furious when Won-Won starts seeing Lavender Brown, that little kook, not to mention whenever Ron notices basically any other woman.

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This is JUST FRIEND COMFORT.

Jealousy can really bring people together. Is this an unhealthy lesson? Meh. 

5. Pain brings truth.

Not only emotional pain, though that is very true (see above: jealousy lesson), but physical pain as well. After Ron is poisoned, he calls out Hermione’s name, not Lavender’s, which is basically as good as a marriage proposal.

Hermione had first dibs.

Also, when the Cruciatus curse is put on Hermione in that terrifying scene right before (sob! spoiler alert!) Dobby is killed, Ron loses his mind trying to escape to help his lady. Though everyone basically knows that they love each other at this point, it is still one more big sign before they finally kiss.

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  1. Sometimes though, Ron was not a particularly loyal friend to either Harry or Hermione. When I first read through the books I was surprised that Harry and Hermione were not an ultimate love connection. There were passages that I interpreted as Hermione and Harry being more to each other than simply a ‘brother and sister’ relationship.

  2. This was perfect! Thanks for articulating my thoughts exactly! So this news has caused me some serious stress! (Let’s just forget the fact that it’s a fictional story and fictional characters) But here’s the thing, I have been in love with Ron Weasley since about 1999 – yes 4th grade me loved him even before the movies came out, and especially after I saw Rupert Grint’s amazing face. And I have loved and looked up to Hermione for an equally long amount of time. And as you said, I just feel like they balance each other out and are honestly the perfect couple. They make each other better. And it never even crossed my mind that they should be with anyone else. So, in a nut shell, Ron + Hermione 4 life. Also, where can I find a Ron Weasley to marry please?

  3. I think the scene with Bellatrix using the cruciatus curse on Hermione is very telling. Harry’s attitude is, “It’s awful, but she’s strong, she can withstand this. Don’t lose your head and totally ruin our plan.” Ron’s just like, “Let me at her! I’m gonna kill Bellatrix!” I’m pretty sure Rowling got it right.

  4. I agree with everything, though they point is that those scenes were built after the decision to make them a couple. The sensation I got from the interview is that JK made Ron a different character from what he was supposed to be just that he could be “enough man” to Hermione. Though he has some big flaws in his character, JK made him a better man for her – stepping up for SPEW, saying that “we should save the house elves” in book 7, etc. Ron pushes ethics to its limit, while Hermione is perfect in that sense – she does not bend rules. Of course the way the books were built, they are perfect for each other, but maybe not in the way they were conceived. Ron would probably be a different character if he was not supposed to end up with Hermione – Harry would be the same. I’m not defending Harry and Hermione together, but isn’t it bizarre that a character should be redone just to be matched to a couple? In the same way, I do believe Ginny was built as character for Harry only, and I don’t like the idea of it.

  5. I love EINTKILF♥ i needed to read this one, thanks.

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