Diving In Molly Franken

Today is my first day writing for HelloGiggles, so I sat to contemplate what I had to say.  What is so important I need to share it with the masses? How can I make an impact right out of the gate here on good ol’ HG? Where can I go (metaphorically) to showcase my insanely witty repertoire and impress the pants right off of all these splendid readers? Let me tell you, I like to set the bar high. I’m an overachiever in every sense of the word so this is what I came up with: nothing.

Yep, that’s right, a big fat goose egg. One heaping dose of nada. A kiddie pool full of zilch. A kaleidoscope of scattered blanks. You get the idea. But it did cause a lil’ something to happen.  In the recesses of my rickety and decrepit idea space (picture Grey Gardens in its latter years), a dimly lit bulb flickered on. How many times in our life do we let the fear of the unknown, or the hope to so highly impress others, freeze us in our footsteps? We want that ‘thing’ so badly that we scare ourselves right into missing out on the opportunity to enjoy or accomplish it. We very nearly talk ourselves straight out of reaching our goal. We want to be so good that we think we could never live up to the idea of perfection we feel must be required for the task.

I’m here to tell you to stop it. Stop it right this instant. ¡Parada, mis amigos! (That means ‘Stop, my friends’ in Spanish. I’ll be dropping worldly pearls of wisdom on the regular so hold on tight, folks!) And, listen, I’m not just telling all of you, I’m saying it for myself, as well. Why should putting ourselves out there feel so terrifying? We all have something to give, big or small. So what if I fell on my writing face today? So what if one person read and actually enjoyed my piece? Or, better yet, hated it? S**t, it’s one more person than if I hadn’t done it at all! That is the kind of mentality we need to keep going, keep pushing.

I am a chronic overthinker. Seriously. I’m pretty sure it owns its very own helix in my DNA. I can think something TO DEATH. And because of that, a lot of times it prevents me from sticking my toe into that kiddie pool full of zilch. Why would I want to get in an empty kiddie pool? I don’t have the water (read: ideas) to even fill it up! But, maybe, just maybe, if I stuck my toe in first, a hot guy with a hose would appear from around the corner and fill that bad boy right up. Then it’s a fun day in the sun! Stranger things have happened. Do you hear what I’m saying?!

I think taking a leap of faith can result in some of the biggest payoffs you or I will ever experience in our lives. Is it scary? Hell yeah. Does it make your tummy do flips? Pretty much. Does it make you feel like you have to tinkle? No? Just me? Okay, whatever. (And, yes, I said tinkle in my first HG piece. How’s that for putting it out there?) It can be hard, but more importantly, it can be great. Before we begin doubting ourselves, how about we believe in ourselves (even if it IS delusional)? The fact is that you will have tried. You will have moved forward instead of remaining stock still, beating yourself up about how tentative you have been. There is no need to freeze because you want something to be so good. Give it the room it deserves, give yourself the room YOU deserve, let it happen, nurture your own growth and if it isn’t perfect that first time, you keep going until it reaches as close to perfect as you are capable of.

That’s what matters, that’s what diving in is all about.

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  1. Way to go girl! Such a well written and true piece!

  2. I love this piece! I’m gonna favorite this and read it whenever I’m feeling unsure of something!

  3. AWESOME! And spot on. I have spent my life frozen because I’m so afraid to fail. In the past six months, I’ve put myself out there more and I’ve found that being disappointed isn’t the worst thing and that sometimes things work out. Looking forward to more posts!

  4. Love it! :O)

  5. That was a wonderful first piece. Can’t wait to read another.

  6. wow! great post!

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  7. What a way to articulate how so many of us feel about trying something new. I need to put a copy of this on my mirror. Great first post Molly – hope to read more soon.

  8. The good thing about doing something for the first time? It only happens once! Now you Know that you can do it! Yeah!

    We should all try to do things that scare us and
    you have inspired us to dive in! Thanks Molly! Can’t wait to read more from you

  9. You have become one of my fave author.

  10. i will def be reading your posts after this. this was definitely something I needed to hear, and most importantly on today of all days. crazy how things work out in life that way. thank you for this piece so much. and i think its awesome you said tinkle hahah. keep up the good work. ill be back for more :D <3

  11. “Nothing to fear but fear itself”! Let the fun begin. Thanks for the reminder Molly;) Great article.

  12. Amen, sister!

  13. WOW!!! I have never had anyone articulate the way I feel on a daily basis so well… It’s amazing to see it put into words! Thank You!

  14. Thanks for the positive feedback, guys! It’s much appreciated.

    Molly Franken | 2/03/2012 01:02 pm
  15. Awesome kick off, Cheerio! As I know all too well, analysis paralysis is SO real. Over-thinking can be the sister to Excuses. Sometimes you just gotta dive in. The water’s never as scary as it seems. :)

  16. I am twice your age but learned from your wisdom. Going to stick my toes in pool even though I can’t swim. Can’t wait to read more.

  17. Hey Molly! I’m a friend of V’s. So excited she told us about this article & you writing for HG! Can’t wait to read more. Going to read this to my 12 & 9 year old daughters… perfect for girls & women of all ages. Go GirlPower!!! Love.

  18. Just what I needed to hear in my life right now!!! ThankYou!!
    Great first piece ~ can’t wait to read more.

  19. Great first post! Here’s to diving in head first!

  20. This really hit home, now time to conquer the world :) thanks Molly!

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