My husband and I made a pact to never fight in front of our children. However, we’re only human, so sometimes we can’t control our emotions as much as we’d like to and sometimes our quiet discussions turn into arguments and one of us loses it and yells. So I try to explain to Sunny that we are in no way arguing, we’re just speaking loudly as we are outside, or the windows are open so we can’t hear each other as well and have to speak up.
Lately, we have been getting along better than ever, and I’ve realized half of the arguments we have these days are really silly. Embarrassing, really. Over the years, I’ve realized that celebrities like J.Lo, and movies like Titanic and The Notebook easily influence me. When Ben Affleck and J.Lo did an interview with Diane Sawyer letting the world in on how they got engaged, my then boyfriend/now husband and I almost broke up. I watched with envy as Ben Affleck described how he lovingly put rose petals all over the stairs leading up to the bedroom and J.Lo smiled while showing Diane and the rest of us her six carat pink diamond ring. Before the interview was even over, I ran into the other room and told my boyfriend he was unromantic, he was never going to propose to me and he’d never get me a ring like J.Lo (UM, DUH). We spent the next few hours arguing about the fact that he wasn’t Ben and I wasn’t J.Lo and we were “us” and we’d get married at our own pace. The one thing he agreed with me on is that I was not going to get a ring like J.Lo’s.
When Leo and Kate fell in love in Titanic, I didn’t talk to him for an entire day because I felt like he wasn’t obsessed with me the way Jack was with Rose. I cried and cried as I asked him, “Would you freeze to death for me like Jack did?” He just kept saying, “This never happened. Are you crazy?” When I saw The Notebook, I asked him in an accusatory tone if he’d stay with me if I got dementia. He looked at me for a long time, held my face lovingly in his hands, and then said, “Depends how long you had it for.”
The more I think about it, the more I realize just how many truly dumb fights he and I have had. We once fought for an hour at 2 in the morning over 1 degree in the thermostat.
What’s the dumbest fight you and your significant other ever had?
(BTW My hubby likes to use this story at parties) During “that time” is about the only time that I get fed up and irritated with just about anything. I made my husband watch “Kiss Me Kate” with me, even though I knew he probably wasn’t going to be into an older musical. After it was done I turned to him and said, “Come on, just tell me you hated it.” “But I didn’t hate it, it wasn’t too bad.” “Just tell me you hated it Josh!!!” “Ok fine, I hated it.” “I knew it! I knew you hated it!”. This is when I storm out and refuse to talk to him for the rest of the night.
I make cakes. And sometimes I take on more than I can handle with an order. My boyfriend loves to eat the fondant I work with. He knows what it tastes like but every time I make a cake, he is in the kitchen eating my fondant. One night I was working on a huge baby shower order. 70 cookies and 3 separate cakes. Like always, Tom came into the kitchen, reached into my bowl and I flipped and I mean FLIPPED out at him. I was stressed out and yell at him all the time that people are paying me for the fondant he is eating!!! I yelled so bad that he left the house and slept on the couch that night. Now, he stays out of the kitchen and doesn’t ask for fondant until after the cakes are done.
i once had a dream that i came home and found my husband in the shower with another woman, and when i woke up i was like, “youre a jerk!” and he was like, “you cannot get mad at ME for something YOU dreamed!” we joke about it all the time now. but it wasn’t really a fight. it was too playful to be a fight. but i was still mad that dream him cheated on dream me. i dont think we have any “stupid” fights. we get along really well and when we do fight, its usually over a biggy, like our finances or something. i cannot imagine ever getting angry at him for not being like a fictional character. that seems like a waste of energy to me.
We fought about plates in a Wal-Mart and didn’t speak the whole way home. haha. He wanted white plates and I wanted blue/yellow ones. I kept telling him he was plain and predictable and he thought my idea was tasteless or something. Ya, probably the DUMBEST fight we’ve ever had.
Great article!
Oh man. Remember the movie “A Serious Man” by the Coen brothers? Well, I hate, hate, HATED it. A direct quote of myself, “I felt like I just watched the Coen brothers jack-off for an hour and a half and flip me a double-handed finger. And then they farted as they left the room.” My bile and ire was so agitated, that my boyfriend/now husband was a little shaken by the hatred I held for a movie that he felt was not only NOT terrible, but maybe even alright. I told him I was baffled by the fact that he WASN’T as wrathful as me and perhaps HE WASN’T THE MAN I FELL IN LOVE WITH. In other words, completely and utterly ridiculous and over dramatic. We got froyo, dispute resolved.
I’m dying! Personally a Serious Man is one of my favorite Coen brothers’ movie (because The Book of Job is one of my favorite things about the bible, and really this is just the Coens’ take on it), but I can see why most people wouldn’t like it, so no harm no foul. My boyfriend and I have gotten into huge spats over movies, too. I still cannot talk about how much I hate Excalibur around him, or how much I don’t like Kevin Smith. We won’t stop fighting (continuing it on via texts) until one or sometimes both of us in crying.