It’s summer and I’m on vacation and I’m noticing some things that are bugging me and it has to do with the way girls my age try, on the outside, to not BE their age. And this week, I’m noticing three things in particular.
THE SKINNY PROBLEM
Seven to fourteen (maybe older!) year old girls have started to get the idea that they have to be stick thin in order to be beautiful. THIS IS NOT TRUE. You can be beautiful in any size you are! With my friends, when they start putting their bodies down (“Oh, my butt is so meh!”), I remind them, just because the models and actresses you see look like that, doesn’t mean you have to. Somebody once said to me I was fat. I am perfectly okay with that. I couldn’t care less that they think I’m fat; it is being unhealthy that gets me worried and that’s what I told that person! Look at Mercedes from Glee. She isn’t stick thin but she is beautiful to me and she’s talented and she’s confident and she’s awesome. Someone around my age said to me she does a 30 minute workout in the winter to look good in a swimsuit. We’re TEN!
CUZ YOU’RE AMAZING, JUST THE WAY YOU LOOK: Some girls think they need to be some image, but who cares what people think of you?! If someone says a rude comment, screw them. They are jerks! As long as you like yourself (AND YOU SHOULD, YOU SHOULD LIKE YOURSELF), that is fine. Repeat after me: Cuz you’re amazing, just the way you look.
THE MAKE-UP PROBLEM
I see eight year old girls wearing makeup, casually. Not as dress-up, not as a joke, but FOR REAL!!! Seriously? What is that? It’s gross to see little girls with make up on, looking like they’re grown-ups. I don’t think that kids should be wearing mascara or foundation or any of that junk when you’re my age. You have the rest of your life to put that stuff on your face. I have been seeing people applying makeup in school, and taking it off before school ends so they don’t get into trouble at home. If your parents wouldn’t like it, it isn’t okay.
CUZ YOU’RE AMAZING JUST THE WAY YOU LOOK: Don’t hide your natural, beautiful self! Makeup just hides your natural beauty! Like I said, you are perfect just the way you look!
THE I-AM-OLDER PROBLEM
Some kids my age dress like they are 30, especially if you count in all the make-up wearing. I’ve noticed that some girls wear cropped shirts without t-shirts underneath and you see their bellies, high heels, very short shorts, like shorter than they ought to be. What’s up with that? I don’t want to see all that noise! I always feel like saying, “Pretty soon you’ll be 20 or 30 and you won’t be able to shop in the kids’ section at your favorite store or maybe silly graphic tees won’t be as fun for you anymore.”
CUZ YOU’RE AMAZING JUST THE WAY YOU LOOK: I know some girls can’t wait to dress older, but you have the rest of your lives to dress that way. I think that when you’re 10 or 11 or 12 you should enjoy being that age and dressing that way because when you’re 20, you can’t really dress like a 10 year old, if you know what I mean.
So the thing I’m saying is this: You’re Amazing, Just The Way You Look.
That’s it for Ruby’s Corner, see you next week, and on twitter: @rubykarp all the time.