BFFs of the WeekBFF of the WeekRivka Rossi

Remember in When Harry Met Sally when Billy Crystal and Meg Ryan discuss whether or not women can actually be friends? Of course you do! Everyone remembers that. I think about that a lot because I have a lot of guy friends – a lot of good guy friends. A lot of my girlfriends don’t understand how I can possibly have such close male friends around me and it not be anything more than friendship. These  girls tend to be in relationships/married and maybe just aren’t allowed. Who knows?

Well, maybe I just don’t want to be more than friends. Maybe the male friends don’t want to be with me. Either way, sometimes us girls need to admit that our guy friends really are just the best. My guy best friend is movie critic and sports nut-bag Ben Lyons and he is the greatest man/child in the world. I sometimes worry that Ben is the only male not in my immediately family that will ever love me. Ben would literally stab someone for me. He wouldn’t kill for me, though, because he isn’t a terrible person.

Having a guy BFF is really the best: they tell you the truth almost always, even if it’s too honest. Ben will always tell me when I am acting desperate with boys which is super important! Girlfriends tend to be too kind in this area. All of my friends and family tell me that I should marry Ben and that always makes me super proud but also super annoyed. Why can’t a girl and guy have a brother/sister relationship or, as I like to call us, the straight Will & Grace? I hope everyone gets to experience what it’s like to have a guy best friend who insists that you want to hear about the Knicks draft, but also is willing to discuss the loss of Oprah with you. That’s love guys.

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  1. I have two male BFFs and they’re both awesome! What’s best is what you say that they give you the truth ,no matter how honest,it’s either “Change your clothes and put on makeup,we’re not going out with you looking like that” or “Dang! You look hot tonight!New boyfriend?” I feel bad for those who don’t enjoy the pleasure of male BFFs and also,one of them got engaged once (they broke it off) and I was truly happy for him and didn’t pull a Julia Roberts or anything like that,as I always say WE’RE JUST FRIENDS!

  2. I can’t help but still be a bit of a skeptic when it comes to male/female friendships, but you and Ben give me hope.

  3. Yay! I like this. But can we talk about the not “allowed” thing? Is it normal for a boyfriend to not understand why a girl has boy friends of a platonic nature?

  4. I love Ben. That is all.

  5. ben has been my celeb crush since i became acquainted with the term ‘celeb-crush’ . super awesome you are BFFz. also, super awesome to know there are still good guys out there in general. guy friends can totally be that–friends. loved this post. YOU ARE FUNNY.

  6. benophia would be your mash-up name. You dig?

  7. i get that a lot too! if i’m friends with a guy my girlfriends think there’s something going on when in reality its just a friendship.

  8. i have some male friends that i’d consider besties. i don’t see them all the time, because i don’t live in my hometown anymore, but i still think they are awesome!

  9. the question is…if Ben fell in love with someone and got married…would you pull a Julia Roberts in My Best Friend’s Wedding? this is the litmus test question every girl should ask herself in regards t her guy friends.

    • No, I would be really happy for him. unless she was evil and then I would cut her!. We want the best for each other

  10. Gurrl, I KNOW. My best male friend is the BEST, THE BEST, and while his mother has begged to have me as an in-law, I just can’t fathom the idea of my body on his body. But he seriously is one of the best men I’ve ever known, and the only man (other than my pops) who has been consistent and wonderful in my life. When you’re a single lady, that honest-but-kind straight male perspective is PRICELESS.

    But Ben Lyons is super cute, so if you don’t like him IN THAT WAY, you can send him over here, haha just kidding, we’re strangers, but no really.

  11. i wish ben lyons was my bff… or boyfriend for that matter. so i guess, win win sitch for you either way!

  12. I am proud to say that my brother is my BFF! He’s not afraid to tell me how it is, and he’s ALWAYS there for me when I need him. Just like your BFF Ben, my brother would probably stab somone for me, but not kill (Your quote on the stabbing, but not killing made me LOL).

  13. I’ve always had a lot of guy friends too. They truly are the best. :)

  14. I have my boy roommate, who is straight and cute, but really a bigger girl than I am. We complement each other in a lot ways, and are into the same things, but have zero interest in what’s going on below each others belts. Beyond cheerleading good relationships. We actually sort of tried that and it wasn’t for the two of us. When we’re out, we back each other up, play wing man, and shock folks with the fact that we aren’t actually doing it. We also just completed a mostly successful cat merge, so, yay us!

  15. Yeah, i couldn’t be close friends with a guy. I’m married now, so it’s easier, but when I was single, if I liked a guy enough to be friends with him, I would actually like him as more.

  16. Does it count if my husb is my best friend? Because he is. And we discuss all sorts of stuff. But we still do it. So does that count?