You’ve heard it time and time again. Dating in LA is so hard. How could this be? Isn’t being single, just being single? It doesn’t matter exactly WHERE you are single, you just are. Nay, I say. Nay. Take a gander at the piece written by Richard Rushfield (a Hellogiggles fav!) on Native Angeleno dot com. It’s like, dude cracked the code when it comes to your lonely nights in your ‘swanky’ LA pad…alone. Woofing, and I mean woofing down pho.
You see, Lil Momma (I’m Lil Momma. You’re Big Poppa.) has been single in Los Angeles since 2008 when she willingly decided to let go of the only real man that was good to her. (He was a native from LA. Yes, they exist.) Oh, you heard me correct. I let him go. And, I did it because whelp, I needed “to see what else was out there.” Now, was it a bad move on my end? Yes and no. I did need “to see what else was out there” but in the end, it happened to be a boatload of unemployed dudes with skateboards and uptight balding men that sweat in their suits and have unbearable food allergies. Which in turn led me to never finding a solid comparable to good-guy-dude again.
In the article laid down by Mr. Richard, he basically explains how we are in LA for one specific reason: To be in entertainment. Otherwise, why are you here? The “swanky” apartment that doubles as a closet and triples as a night mare? The booming downtown nightlife that consists of terrifying skid row residents? (No hating, That’s basically where I live. NOT on skid row, but pretty dang close.) Or perhaps it’s all the amazing people you meet while sitting in your car on the 10 interstate for two hours? Is that it?!
JK. I love LA. I mean, I love the entertainment business therefore Lil Momma loves LA. But with the entertainment biz you are only going to run into dudes and dudettes that are basically trying their hardest to live their dream and in the process forget what it’s like to be a good, caring, human with morals and like, a beating heart n’ stuff. Now, is that everybody? Golly I hope not. However, it’s not like sifting to find those small percentage of good peeps is easy. We are all terrified of online dating so we’re basically just waiting for a friend of a friend “to swear that this guy is good” only to have him meet a model named Alexa (pronounced “Ah-LUX-Ah”) and leave you on the side of the road to eat a Pink’s hotdog… alone. (That’s just an example, I am NOT saying that happened).
Is there hope? Sure, if you believe in hope. But, it will first have to start with you accepting the fact that here in LA the dating world is just a little different. Also, stay a good person. I know in this business that means you’ll be flat broke and ostracized as a social leper but the only way to break that stereotype is to, well, Lena Dunham that junk, and break the stereotype. For now, Richard suggests you keep dating. A: Because you’ll have great stories to tell your kid and B: Well…see “A.”
There is hope ladies! We built threedayrule.com for this exact reason. It’s really hard to find the good guys in LA. They are all working as hard as you are and nobody meets at bars anymore. You have to be invited or endorsed to get on the website so all of the screening is done for you. Check it out.
I grew up here….I moved back to attend school full-time, and I will leave when I’m finished. I figured hey- Early 30s, single mom, living in Los angeles….I’ll be lonely for a lifetime unless I just settle for the creepy old men that love to hit on me.
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I speed date on the I-10. It gets so that all their faces blur together.
“The “swanky” apartment that doubles as a closet and triples as a nightmare?” This sentence is amazing. The rest is great too, but man… that sentence!
I’m going to have to disagree. The problem is safe zones. Like where you said waiting for a friend of a friend, blah blah blah. Few are adventurous anymore, no matter how trendy the YOLO bull is. That’s actually another problem, people want to be trendy. So many people looking for the next hot spot, or in their neighborhood cause everything else is too far. I’ve got news for you, most of the transplants are here for the above mentioned reasons. Most of the natives are not, and most of the natives are not in the trendy areas, or the areas that are just now under going gentrification. MOst of those areas that “are sooo last year” well, they’ve been “sooo last year” for a few years, and that’s where we’re at.
Being single is tough everywhere. Try being single in DC – where the women out-number the men, only about half of the single men may share your political beliefs (and everybody has to tell you their opinion about politics whether you asked or not). Most single men in DC are unavailable because they are workaholics – you will never see them (I repeat – you will never see them). If you find one you actually can date – their job will transfer them across the planet within 6 months. We are an industry town too – just every up and comer here wears a navy “power” suit to an interview instead of carrying a headshot. We have traffic that’s god awful – and no one lives near each other (and god help you if a government motorcade is coming your way – even trains have to stop and wait – forever). Every one comes to DC as a dreamer that they can make a difference – most end up jaded if they stay, or grateful to leave the heat, the humidity, the political pundits if they make it out still in one piece. Dating is just hard….period.
Dating in LA is as pointless as a Pauly Shore movie.
So true!