Aunt-icipation Deborah Tarica

My sister is currently pregnant.  Very pregnant.  And sure, it’s exciting that she’s going to be a first-time mother. But let’s remember what’s really importantly here: I’M GOING TO BE AN AUNT!

Now, I know there have been plenty of aunts that have come before me, and there will be plenty after. BUT… I am going to be the best aunt that ever was. That’s a fact. How do I know this, you ask? Well, for starters, because I said so. I’ve never been an aunt before, but I don’t need it to already be on my resume to know that I’m going to nail the job.  I don’t normally have this kind of confidence when venturing into new realms. It took me years to acknowledge that I’m decent at knitting, even longer to perfect my cursive, and I still don’t think I’m a very good driver. But when this kid is born, if it knows one thing, it will be that her* aunt loves her.

Being an aunt means I get to do all the fun stuff, and none of the hard things that parents have to do. I get to read her stories, but not pay for tuition. I get to sing silly songs with her but not wake up at 4 am to put her back to bed. I get to take her to her first R rated movie, but don’t have to have the birds and the bees talk with her.  Not that being the parent is bad of course, I’m sure it has its own perks. It’s just not as good as being an aunt.

Oh, and did I mention there will be lots of presents? These are not going to be just ordinary presents either. I will be known as the aunt who spoiled this child so rotten, that there’s no turning back. Who bought her that pony? I did. Who took her to Disneyland everyday in a row for three years? Me. She wants ice cream? I’ll buy her the store (that one would actually be for both of us).  You might be thinking, “A good aunt will help her niece learn limits and know when to say no.” I say that’s what parents are for (please see previous paragraph for further explanation).

There is obviously more that goes into being the greatest aunt ever, but those are the things I’m most excited about. That and being the grown up she calls for advice when her parents are being unreasonable (she knows I’ll always side with her), me teaching her about all the things that I know (knitting, cursive, bad driving and everything in the world outside of her crib), her teaching me about all the stuff that she knows (Goodnight Moon, The Runaway Bunny, all of the important business she conducts when she’s pushed around in a stroller.)

I can’t be the only one out there who feels this way…if you have any great tips on how to be an awesome aunt, let’s hear ‘em! Anything like what’s the best age to show them Dirty Dancing for the first time? Or how many puppies is too many to give as a birthday present? And if you’re not an aunt, what are you most looking forward to when get called up? If you’re anything like me it will be showing anyone who will pay attention (and even those who won’t) pictures of this baby.

I am counting the days until this baby is born. I can’t wait to meet her for the first time, put a name to a face, and smother her with more love than she’ll know what to do with. Then, and only then can I finally accept my crown as queen of all aunts!

*They don’t know the sex of the baby yet, but it looks real dumb to write his/her and niece/nephew each time. So, for the sake of this piece, I have decided that my sister is having a girl, because that is what I hope it is. Everyone always says they don’t care, as long as it’s healthy, but I care. I want it to be a girl.**

**I don’t actually care if it’s a boy or a girl. I just want it to be healthy.***

***I’m such a hypocrite.

Photo by Deborah Tarica

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  1. My nephew is only 2 months old but I already feel like we connect on a deep level. He is a mini-me. I feel bad for my sister but I’m excited to have another person like me in the family!

    Then again, he IS only 2 months old =)

  2. Is it babymaking season or what! My brother and sister-in-law just told me I’m going to be an aunt too, yay! And I’m totally going to fight you for the title of Best Aunt Ever.

  3. I actually helped to raise my niece for two years, but I mostly got to be an amazing aunt. And to this day she still prefers me to her biological father. When she sees (even now, at the age of eight) she tackles me to the ground and about squeezes my head off with her hugs. I love being an aunt. It is one of the most fulfilling things I have ever had the pleasure of doing. And what’s more, I am an honorary aunt for my best friends daughter and soon to be born second child. And her nine year old daughter still greats me with a huge hug every time I see her. And it is so fun to get to do all of the fun things you mentioned with none (or almost none) of the heavy lifting.

  4. My gosh every time I hear my nephews/godsons say my name or tell me they love me it melts my heart and I cry, straight up cry every single time! It doesn’t get old, it’s the most wonderful feeling in the world to know that you are so loved by 2 tiny little humans. True the parents have the most important tasks but there are other certain things that if the parents can’t fulfill, it is a godmother’s/aunt’s duty to fulfill. Especially since my sister is younger than I am and I am still teaching HER things. Being an auntie is the greatest! I can only imagine how emotional I’ll be when I have my own kid – though I am putting it off because I am overwhelmed already with the love from my two princes! ;P

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  6. When my first neice and nephew (twins) were born up until they were talking, everytime I was with them, I’d say my name, Jerrica, several times, and kept telling everyone they were going to say my name first, and sure enough, both of them knew how to say Jerrica (which isn’t exactly the easiest name for a baby) before anyone elses, including Grandma and PopPop. It was the most awesome feeling in the world! Now they’re about to be 5 and I also have a 3 year old nephew and they all get so excited everytime they see me or talk to me on the phone. I don’t have any kids of my own yet and I know I’ll be a great mom when that happens, but right now and forever on, I will always love being the kids’ favorite AUNT!!!

  7. My mother has 3 sisters: the latter has 3 children on her own and a very low salary, but the other two have always gifted me so many things ’cause I’m the only child of their elder sister. If you wanna follow my aunts’ paths better be the first to gift your niece:
    - lingerie (1st aunt, she gives me lingerie sets on Christmas, Easter, on my name-day; damn, if in Italy we were celebrating Labor day I may get another one!)
    - jewelry bought in the tons of journeys a FAVOURITE AUNT has to have! (I’ve got necklaces and bracelets and earrings etc from India, Thailand, Mexico, Namibia, etc who could testify). It would be even better if you’d take her on these journeys, trust me;
    - cousins. As I said I’m an only child, and the kids of my jewelry-aunt are like a brother and a sister to me. Best thing in my life fo sure <3

  8. Btw, have to give you this hint. Any time you see any onesies/sleepers/tees/whatevers that say something about “aunt” on them, get them! I was never able to find even a simple “I <3 my Aunt" onesie when my oldest niece was born, then found them all over the place when she was too old for them. I've been able to find them more with this new baby niece, she currently has a tee that says "My Auntie Spoils Me" and a onesie that says "My Aunt Is So Cool", and it makes me so (egotistically) happy to see her in them. Wish I'd been able to find them for the oldest niece.

  9. Being an aunt is the BEST! I have two fabulous nieces who I love spoiling. One turns 6 in a couple of weeks and one is just 3 months old. One of my proudest moments was when my oldest niece was having a sleepover at my apartment, she saw my large collection of Disney movies and excitedly exclaimed “You have all my favorite movies!!!”

    Yeah, I’m the cool aunt. I don’t care that I’m the only aunt, I’m still the cool aunt.

  10. As an experienced “Super Aunt” I can tell you the excitement of meeting the newest nephew or niece does not deminish as your siblings keep procreating. Nephew #7 is due to arrive this Tuesday and I also have 3 gorgeous nieces in my life. I think the best thing is when the child learns to talk and finally says your name. We like to compete to see who can teach the current non-talker our name first.

  11. You may be a first time aunt, but I can already tell you’re going to absolutely rock it! My favourite aunt always spoiled me – it was fantastic, her kids would get jealous because my mother so did not spoil them (guess they lucked out in the aunt department – we can’t all win).

    Also, there is no age limit on Dirty Dancing. Seriously. It’s a treasure to be appreciated by all generations…

  12. I just moved from Florida to DC. I’m not going home for Thanksgiving. Maybe Christmas, but nothing set in stone. However, I will be there next month for my niece’s third birthday. It’s the Holy Day in my book.
    PS – Dress up. Dress up is one of the best parts.

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