Teaspoon of Happy An Ode to the Bachelorette Sarah May Bates

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The BFF love-fest: a time to cry and gush in ways you never do but damn well should. I myself love it. And oh, how it’s changed. Every bachelorette I’ve been to has been just a concentrated weekend of fun and awesomeness – no male strippers or dildos, just love, delicious things, a cool creative activity and lots of silliness.

I am throwing my BFF’s bach this weekend and it has brought up what I often fail to remember: time is precious and it’s flying by you all the time. A bach is a milestone that allows you to shower someone with love and gifts but also pause to say “We are here now, and your life is about to change forever.” It’s beautiful and happy and also sad. There are so many times I’ve wished I could pause and please stay for a little bit longer. What I have learned is that is in opposition to the essence of what you love in your life: the moment. If we were to stagnate and magically hit pause, it would remove the real meaning. The meaning is relevant only in its place in time, as a part of our course. It’s like we’re little stars shooting around an infinite space, ricocheting off of things that change us forever.

A great friend that you can keep forever is one in a million and should never be taken for granted. We all know this but it’s only in contrast are we able to remember it and feel it completely. In many ways a best friend is closer and more intimate than a husband or wife. It’s a gift of time, and of experience.

Today I welcome the pause, I am grateful to slow down time to savor my friend. I hope to leave her with the large imprint of a hug around her that will never fade away as this moment passes, and we grow past this time in our lives forever.

Here’s to the bachelorette. To telling your friends you love them, and why, and how much.

Congratulations Xanthe!!!!!!!! I love you!!!

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  1. Oh goodness, you made me get all misty! I need a tissue you now. I can totally relate to wanting to pause time and stay longer, but then I remind myself that if those moments that I want to linger in lasted forever they wouldn’t be special anymore. You’re right, it’s the brevity of those moments in our lives that makes us cherish them and the way things are always changing that make life so exciting and worth living. BTW, I totally love the shift that bachelor/bachelorette parties are making. Not that I’m above some good, raunchy, drunken fun with my friends, but I think the time spent bonding them through good girly fun is better for our souls…and probably our livers. :-) I’ve said it before (like every week), but I’m pretty sure we share a brain Sarah May! You are an excellent writer, I hope my writing turns out half as good one day.

    • Awe thank you Kimberly. I was totally crying writing it! Thanks for the comment!!! I am so glad it took you back to a nice memory :) xSarah

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