From Our Readers The Age of the Selfie From Our Readers

Am I the only one who thinks posting a selfie on social media is the vainest thing a person can do? Would you print out a photo of your face and pass it out to 100 of your friends just because? Oh no, you wouldn’t? Then do not use the internet to do so, either.

Let’s take a moment to break down the 10 different types of selfies we are all guilty of posting so that we may begin to take strides to make all of these extinct one day:

1. The “I’m Bored” Selfie. Whether you’re bored in your car, bored in a waiting room at your doctor’s office, or bored at home watching TV, please do not feel the need to take a photo of this and post it for all to see. Guess what? I’m really bored at the doctor’s office too, but that’s why they have Highlights Magazine stacked up in the waiting room.

2. The “I’m At an Event” Selfie. Oh, you’re at a Justin Timberlake concert? Guess what’s way more exciting for all of your Instagram followers to see? A photo of the concert! Some acceptable shots: the performer, the stage, the crowd, the lights, even the line for the ladies room during ‘Cry Me a River’.

3. The “Funny” Selfie. The culprit is most likely a self-proclaimed “comedian”. Stop trying to disguise the fact that you just posted a photo of your face online by making a weird or goofy expression. These will most likely be captioned with something like “I’m such a nerd!” or “just being silly”.

4. The “Hashtag” Selfie. These are the worst kind of selfie. Just because you put a pound sign in front of an adjective does not mean it’s any less vain. If you post a selfie and hashtag any of the following: #me #cute #pretty #beauty; you might as well just caption it “I’m so pretty, look at how pretty I am you guys!”

5. The “Bragging” Selfie. Does anyone understand the value of being humble these days? We seem to forget the difference between appreciating an accomplishment and gloating to the world. Can we all be a bit more #modest?

6. The “Mirror” Selfie. This is most likely taken in a bathroom of a bar or a messy bedroom. Guess what is not a flattering backdrop for your photo? Toilet stalls or your pile of dirty laundry and unmade bed.

7. The “I Have a Cool Job” Selfie. This type of selfie is posted so that the postee can hypothetically shout from the rooftops that they have a cooler job than you. These are easy to identify because the postee will usually include a hashtag to remind you that they do in fact have the coolest of jobs. Some examples: #productionlife #producer #producerlife #tv #setlife #onset #werk #thatsawrap

8. The “We Are SO in Love” Selfie. Having breakfast with your boyfriend on your couch on Wednesday morning is not proving to me how in love you are. Having a private life seems almost obsolete now that we function solely on social media. Make an effort to keep some photos to yourself. My parents have been married for 30 years and they somehow manage to survive each day without posting a photo of the two of them on Instagram.

9. The “My New…” Selfie. My new haircut, spray tan, eyebrow wax, you name it. The world does not need to see that your hairdresser cut off an inch.

10. The “I Never Post Selfies, But…” Selfie. This is not a disclaimer that makes posting a selfie acceptable because you chose to caption it with this statement.

Years from now you want to look back on your digital photo album and recall all of the memories and moments you had the chance to experience through-out your lifetime. So come on kids, be more creative. You have the ability to chronicle your life in photographs for thousands to see. Make that photo something worthwhile.

Sara lives and works in New York City.  She loves lobster rolls and Law and Order SVU marathons.  Her life goals include: maintaining a savings account, living in an apartment with a washer and dryer, and never having to pay more than $45 for blonde highlights.  She has one child; a pug named Roxy.  You can find her on Twitter @sarashae

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  1. I do like her post, I do not think that the author it’s complaining about people taking selfies of everything they do. She’s just remarking that people is not taking “normal” photos anymore, the kind of photos that you take with your camera and ask some random person to take it for you, get all your friends around and include yourself in it.
    I like selfies, but not that people constantly post them just because they are in a restaurant, a concert o at their job. But we must remember how we used to take photos and the experience of being all in.

  2. Right on girl! Applauses.
    I cant staaaaaaaaand that many selfies not only on instagram, but i have to see them on fb as well. Guess everyone is just so worried about being accepted.

  3. I can’t believe how people have responded so angrily to this post in the comments section and how people have attacked the author calling her bitter, judgemental and harsh. I really didn’t find this article harsh at all. I saw it as a humorous way to point out that we may ALL be getting too carried away with the selfies a day. I don’t think selfies are really terrible….. But I went from being obsessed with instagram to barely using it any more because I’d rather watch a funny movie than spend 10 minutes of my life looking at pictures of other people’s faces (no matter how much I love and care about those faces). It seems that the people who reacted so violently to this article did do because it made them feel bad or insecure. I think calling this article bitter, harsh and vicious is a MASS overreaction. Calling her bitter is ridiculous….. What’s she got to feel bitter about towards selfie takers……. Someone who is a serial selfie poster is not automatically more successful, prettier, more popular or more famous than the author of this post….. So what has she got to be bitter about against a selfie-taker…….

    and saying that posting selfies is empowering and that it shows people that you feel good about yourself is beyond RIDICULOUS…. If you feel confident and truly feel beautiful then why do you need to prove it to someone or seek other people’s validation by getting likes…. If you already truly do feel good about yourself then then why does posting a selfie make you feel good…..

    • I agree with you, Tiffany!
      I worry that my tween/teen, selfie-obsessed younger sisters post selfies and then agonize over how many likes and followers they get- it’s as if these likes are crucial to their self-esteem. I’ve been asked by my youngest sister, age 12, countless times to like her selfie on instagram that she had so carefully crafted, because she “needs more likes”. While it is certainly nice to know that people like pictures of you, I’m concerned that it’s getting unhealthy. People should be confident in themselves without needing constant reassurance that they are cool/attractive.
      I do think that it’s ok to post selfies, any of the ones that the author has listed, but only in moderation. It’s fine to want to share pieces of your life with your friends- that’s what social media is for, in many cases. Selfies can be fun, just don’t overdo it.

      • I agree….. Posting photos with yourself in them isn’t bad….. and I think the definitions of selfie are getting blurred…… obviously someone who posts one pic of them self in front of the eiffle tower on their Europe trip isn’t a quivering mess of insecurity….. I want to know when my friend gets engaged and I’m super happy for them but if someone posts 10 photos a day of them self with their fiancé for three months straight (and I know people who have done stuff like that) it seems to me that they’re trying to prove something……. I kinda thought that’s what the author was getting at but maybe it got lost in translation …….. I hope things work out for your sister

  4. It is so easy now to snap a picture of yourself and share it with everyone. I think that’s the point, though. Makers of these cellphones keep that at the front of their mind when they design them. They want you to interact more with your piece of media, be it your cellphone, laptop, television. It means more sales for them. The irony is that the more people interact with these forms of media (deriving from medium, or the middle device between us and the world), the less we interact with each other in the real world.
    People take selfies to display to the world, as they now perceive it, how attractive they are, be it through physical attractiveness, humor, wealth, travels, etc. But you know what is actually attractive? Really attractive? Actually interacting with the world. Not putting on a display of how beautiful you want people to think your life is, but actually displaying a beautiful life through your disposition and poise. Cellphones with easy, built in reversible cameras deprive people of that growth. People don’t think they need to achieve a beautiful life if they can give the perception that they have one by tilting the angle just right.
    There is no problem with photographs or documenting your world. It is an amazing feat of technology. But it means nothing to pose in the mirror with your phone singing “I’m so pretty, oh so pretty!” If that is what it takes to boost your esteem, you need to reflect on what actually makes people attractive.
    Attractive people are worldly. They use phones to call old friends, make new acquaintances, take a picture of their family on vacation. Next time you sit on a bus or are waiting in line or are out at dinner, look up from your phone and see how many other people are looking at their phone. It’s sad that this device, meant to connect people more, completely isolates them instead.

  5. I agree :)

  6. I disagree…. Sometimes selfies are over posted, but mostly it’s a friendly way of expressing yourself to your friends and family. #8 is my least favorite – cute couples are cute!

  7. Being honest (and pretty), I do want everyone to look at how pretty I am from time to time. Being modest (and snarky), I do not use rhetoric to make fun of selfie-takers after capitalizing on defining the age I live in using the word selfie. Next to posting a picture of yourself that you yourself took, including a bio-blurb inside an article you wrote for a website you had to go out of your way to featured in trumps the vainest thing a person can do competition. Would you personally handwrite a hundred copies of this article including your name and bio-blurb to hand out to 100 strangers? Oh no, you wouldn’t? Then take your own toxic advice.

    There’s plenty to be ashamed of before the existence of selfies.

    #notsorry

  8. I thought this was super funny :) personally I don’t have a problem with “selfies”. However, I do have a problem with posting pictures on the social media websites. Anyone can see them and whatever site you post them on owns the pictures. I do t post pictures of myself or my kids for that exact reason. Also, i do t post what I am doing, where I am going, or air dirty laundry of any sort. My social media experience is strictly to keep in touch with long distance friends that i do t have the opportunity or time to talk on the phone with. My point being is thank goodness that I serve my country so that people have their first amendment right to “Freedom of Speech”!! Thank you for your well thought out blog, it was very amusing ;)

  9. I like them! I love to see my friends smiling faces and what they have been up to! I kind of find it odd that people get all indignant about it.. if you really believe it’s all about vanity.. ignore it.. that way, based on the vanity theory it should stop. Plus as kids.. didn’t we pass out photos of ourselves to our friends.. with little notes on the back? (school pictures the start of the selfie!) Plus the more pictures we see of “regular” people the better!! I would rather look at a million selfies over an ad in a magazine!

  10. Okay, so…why does everyone get so butt hurt about this? We live in a time where unattainable standards of beauty are constantly smeared in our face. If I take a look in the mirror and I feel good about how I look, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with telling the world that you feel good about yourself.

    There is nothing wrong with loving yourself.

  11. I read somewhere, I think from an article Stephen Fry wrote, that selfies are this generation’s self portrait. And I agree. It’s a way of capturing a fleeting moment of your life. Yes, clearly some are more creative than others, but that doesn’t make them any less valid. I can’t stand it when people include narcissistic comments in a caption either, but then that is also included in painting a picture (‘scuze the pun) of themselves in that exact moment. It’s all about the façade people create for themselves through social media and, personally, I find it far more interesting to analyse that than to automatically assume they are vain and self absorbed. (And before anyone wants to correct my spelling – I’m Australian and we do things a little differently to the States sometimes!)

  12. Thank you! Selfies are so ridiculous. Most of us are guilty of taking selfies here and there (myself included), but I think the volume and reasoning of selfies is getting out of hand. I don’t want to follow you on instagram if every other picture is of your face (unless you’re Justin Timberlake). It’s like when you watch Keeping Up With the Kardashians and notice that Kim has many HUGE pictures of herself in every room of her house. It’s awkward for everyone else involved after a certain amount.

  13. Dumbest post ever. Who ever wrote this is ugly and need to get a life than writing articles on “SELFIES” Shame ON YOU HELLOGIGGLES!!!!

  14. Wow….. bitter much?
    What you see in the selfies is a reflection of what’s inside you.

  15. Agreed man! Why should we shame people for posting pictures of themselves? People have been drawing and painting themselves and each other forever. If taking a selfie makes someone feel good about him/herself, what’s the problem? Should we all pretend to hate our own images? I’m shocked by this article and hope I get to see some more pictures of everyone’s beautiful faces.

  16. I was going to ask exactly how many cats Sara has but then I read the about the author paragraph. According to Ron Swanson, Sara has one cat.

  17. gosh, you are so bitter! maybe people do “selfies” for their profile pic coz guess what, its their page!! you have nothing better to complain about? well good luck with that….. you live in a war torn country? you have to walk ten miles to get the only source of drinking water, and rats swim in it? do you really think its important enough to make so many points against it? does it actually hurt anyone if they wanna post a million things a day, or not at all? i wanted to read something valid as this blog caught my eye, but i cant seem to find a valid point. no, people dont print out photos of themselves, or what they are about to eat and pass it to all their friends because 3 clicks on a computer or smartphone just isnt that. if im to feel guilty of anything i do on a fun yet worthless site as facebook from what you write, then shame on you, you vindictive, hate filled monster. :-)

  18. If selfies are vain, isn’t posting your writing vain? I mean comparing the two;
    Selfies-You share your life, a small piece of yourself, however insignificant, in photo.
    Writing/Blogging-You share your life, a small piece of yourself, however insignificant, in text.
    Selfies-You take a picture of yourself, maybe partying, perhaps taking a stroll, and assume that someone, on the World Wide Web, is interested.
    Writing/Blogging- You capture your thoughts in words, perhaps opinions on what else on the web is annoying, maybe you’re talking about your dinner, and, assuming someone is interested, publish them on the World Wide Web.
    Is comparing these two Internet acts in this context so ridiculous?

    • Agreed man! Why should we shame people for posting pictures of themselves? People have been drawing and painting themselves and each other forever. If taking a selfie makes someone feel good about him/herself, what’s the problem? Should we all pretend to hate our own images? I’m shocked by this article and hope I get to see some more pictures of everyone’s beautiful faces.

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  20. I think the writer was just sharing some light hearted observational humour. She has clearly stated that she does it herself. Interestingly, I’m amazed at how passionate people feel about defending the selfie! there seems to be some deeper self-esteem issues going on in some of these comments around people seeking validation via their selfies, & I don’t think it’s fair to pin those issues on the writer, she’s laughing at herself too & at how bizarre some behaviours can seem when you take them out of the social media context.

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