I’m not a hardcore feminist, but absolutely nothing bothers me more than the suggestion to act “ladylike.” What does that even mean anyway? Because if it entails going to cotillion or a debutante ball or something, well, that ship has most certainly sailed.
A person I trust once said it was “unbecoming” of a female like me to use foul language, and on the few occasions I’ve dropped the “f” bomb or another four-letter word on Twitter, followers (all male, of course) who’ve never actually met me were quick to joke, “Wow! Never thought I’d live to see Laura become a potty mouth.” I never thought I’d live to see the day when folks who have no idea what I’m actually like tell me I’m behaving out of character and oh-so-adorable for spewing expletives. Because aren’t girls so cute when they’re angry?!
Though I’m not offended by the “f” word in most settings, I do believe you have to watch what you say at times. If you’re interviewing for a job or watching children, you should speak carefully, but otherwise it can be cathartic and totally necessary to resort to bad language. Here’s why you shouldn’t be afraid to curse, and if anyone criticizes you for swearing when all other words fail you, feel free to give him/her an earful on my behalf.
7. We’re human
We are the ladies, as Shoshanna Shapiro would say, and sometimes it’s impossible to pretend everything is going swimmingly. She throws fits when life takes a turn for the worse and I just shout a bunch of things that some men would label “unbecoming.”
6. It sends a strong message if you rarely curse
If you choose not to swear very often, those who know you best understand you’re really upset when you do say bad words.
5. It’s brief
An English professor explained to me that people are drawn to four-letter words because of the way they sound. Typically one-syllable, they’re short and to the point, and when you have the urge to curse, you’re not interested in giving long-winded explanations on your frustrations. The “f” bomb encapsulates it perfectly.
4. It shows you’re not a doormat or too soft
You’re not messing around!
3. It’s an easy way to show how you’re feeling
Someone once told me that profanities are a sign of ignorance. “If you’re not intelligent enough to think of a more descriptive phrase, you’re not very smart,” and blah, blah, blah. We know plenty of other words that accurately portray negative feelings, but we want to employ this one right now, and chances are, this isn’t the first time you’ve ever heard it. I don’t believe in getting a rise out of people, but if I’m unhappy about something and decide to call out some B.S., the last thing I want to be told is, “Watch your mouth.” THAT’S NOT THE POINT!