10 Signs That You've Found Your Bestie Soulmate

It’s a great feeling to have a bestie – or “best friend” if the new lingo isn’t your thing. Or a “BeFri”, if you have those best friend necklaces that split apart in the middle. Regardless of the term, a bestie always has your back. They’ve seen you through the awkward stages of life (you know, when you got that round brush stuck to your scalp after attempting a makeover) as well as the great ones (you finally learned how to use round brushes!)

Here are ten signs that you’ve found your bestie soulmate. The one that will give an excellent toast at your wedding, without embarrassing you in front of your new family and possibly your coworkers. And your new spouse. And – well, the entire catering staff.

1. You’re an honorary member of her family. When they have family events, you’re automatically invited. Even better, you don’t feel weird or uncomfortable opening their fridge. If a tragedy strikes, it hits you hard as well.


You’re almost like an adopted member of her family, and don’t think it’s weird at all to be friends with your besties’ parents on Facebook. They’re pretty much your second set of parents, and they’re completely comfortable with taking on the role.

2. If you haven’t seen her in a while, you can pick up right where you left off. You understand that people get busy, and never take it personally. It’s never a question as to whether or not you did something to secretly piss her off. Since if you did, she would have felt safe enough to bring it up with you right after it happened.

3. You trust her opinion – about everything. From relationships to clothes, you know your bestie is doing her best to look out for you. While you might not always agree with her point of view, you definitely take her advice seriously.

4. You’ve adopted a few of her mannerisms, completely by accident. Being around each other has its perks.


Let’s just hope you’ve picked up on her love of reading the book before seeing the movie adaptation, and not her bad habit of forgetting to shut off the oven, or locking her keys in the car.

5. Almost everything in life has some relation to a private joke you’ve had with her. And while it’s sweet, it’s just super tough to explain why you’re cracking up like a maniac over a totally innocent sentence someone else muttered. Especially at work.

6. You don’t need to ask her if she wants to see a certain movie with you. Since, of course she does – it’s a given. You silently agreed to it after you saw a trailer for the movie at the last movie you saw together. It’s just a matter of if you want to catch a matinee or a late night show this Saturday. And, should you Fandango tickets just to make sure it’s not sold out?

7. Sometimes you text or message each other at exactly the same time. I’ve had this happen a few times, and it’s a magical experience. For example: my friend Gina and I messaged each other about the Tom Cruise/Katie Holmes breakup less than a second apart. Even weirder, neither of us are necessarily fond of either of them. We just knew that the other person would be interested in the gossip.

8. You don’t have to do anything to have fun. Sure, going to dance in the club is fun. But know what else is fun? Driving around the neighborhood with your bestie. You know you have a soulmate when your venue doesn’t necessarily make or break the night you’ll have. Even if you have no specific plan in mind, something fun will come together when the two of you meet up.

9. Your bestie always makes sure you’re safe. Have you ever been in a situation where you went out with a group, but left solo? Or, you witnessed a friend talking to a creepy dude whose body language gives you a bad vibe? Or maybe you had a drink too many, and your designated driver is nowhere to be found? Bad situations, ladies. But it can happen, and probably has. Your best friend will always have your best interests at heart. You’ll be able to visually tell if she’s uncomfortable, and she’ll read your signs as well. You know that as long as you have each other, you’ll be safe. Knowing the importance of looking out for each other is an insanely important best friend trait. It’s an important trait in general, to be honest.

10. She embraces your weirdness. Sure, you might be a little off.


You may be in your mid-20’s but still have a favorite Sanrio character without shame. Your friend doesn’t think it’s stupid – in fact, she only builds up your creative mind. It’s important to embrace your goofy side regardless of your age, or stage of your career. She probably has a similar sense of humor as you do, and you love her for it.

Do you and your bestie fit the list? Tell us about him or her in the comments!

Image Credits: Featured, Full House, Clueless, New Girl

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=743109625 Irma Davila

    My bestie and I started looking like one another and have similar mannerisms now. People ask all the time if we are sisters.

    Although I can say with accuracy that #1 works for her – my parents adore her. Her father, however, is not so fond of me – not really sure why?

    We definitely embrace each other’s wierdness and nights in or out with her are the best!

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1647181857 Vir Ulagnero

    I am Argentinian, I met my best friend while I was an exchange student in Bangkok, Thailand. As it always happens, when I first met her I didn´t know she was about to be my bestie. We totally fit in the list. All the signs are so true, specially #4 and #7 .

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=523450333 Tiffany Landweer

    I met my Bestie one day by saving her from a creepy guy. As it also turns out people get us confused because we almost look identical. We may have not been friends for very long but it feels like we’ve been friends forever. It is amazing how everyone of those numbers relates to us! She is my “soul sister/best friend” till the end!

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1603099884 Laura Van Put

    This list is just sooo accurate! Just creepy ^^. This pic is with my bestie :)

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=665979779 Stephanie Hazlewood

    I have a best friend who fits all of these. We have been friends since 1998ish but I think best friend status was achieved during the summer of 2000. We still fondly remember it as “the summer of our lives”. Even though we were only 13, not able to get into much, really, the inside jokes and stories from that summer alone could last us a lifetime- 10 things I hate about you will always be our movie, country crock pink lemonade mix will always be eaten straight out of the can, and she will always be known as my C^2. We spent every waking moment together that summer which made it unforgettable. Not many will ever understand us, or our sacred PAGES of extra signature inserts in the yearbooks dedicated solely to eachother. But that doesn’t matter because Stephie still spits further {15 feet!}, that jacket was DEFINITELY purple- not blue, and the soundtrack to our lives will forever be riddled with 90s pop and one hit wonders. BSB will always out rank Nsync {even if #5 ia our heartbreak anthem and i drive myself crazy}… Fast forward 15 years -through the laughs and the tears, pile on heart break and hardships, add bad fashion trends and mix in life altering decisions & you’ve got two women who live way too far apart but who share an unbreakable bond. I’ve known her for more than half of my life and there isn’t anything I wouldn’t do for her. “Best friend” is an understatment. She is my sister and I love her.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000491884102 Malú Oliveira

    Loved it! I’ll show it to my bestie, she embraces my weirdness VERY MUCH! :)

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1637124221 Michelle Soper

    Great article. I am still looking for my bestie, hoping to find her soon.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1190110860 Kayla L. Minto

    I have the worlds very best bestie!! She is always there for me, and I’m always there for her. Regardless of our schedules, we manage to have every Monday together.
    And the very best part is that when we fight, we always ALWAYS make up 20 seconds later. We understand that we don’t always see eye to eye, but that’s okay. Because we balence each other out.
    I’m not sure where I’d be without my bestie. I sure am blessed to have someone as special as her in my life.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=798464412 La Intérprete

    My bestie is the bees knees! We met 11 years ago and before I really let her in my life, I thought she was everything I’m not and never will be. But as we got closer, I realized how alike we are, in spite of our opposite temperaments. She completely embraces my quirks and makes me feel both normal and incredibly special. She’s my champ, my cheerleader and my most trusted advisor in life, especially when she doesn’t agree with me.
    I can’t tell you how much I love this dorky woman who hashtags all our inside jokes and most of our IM conversations(weirdo, lol). #TheCut will forever be a hallmark of our relationship that only we get.
    A true bestie soulmate and a regular gal 😛

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=693143082 Rose Shelly

    Couldn’t help myself from reading one more posted link with a story. When I immediately read the title I thought of Kelly Elizabeth. It’s been a little over four months that my “bestie soulmate” left this world. Since that day my life hasn’t been as fulfilling. I’ve made the effort to accept that the good die young, but I selfishly want Kelly here on earth.

    I miss Kelly’s opinions, mannerisms, our private jokes, texts, calls, emails, road trips to 8tracks, looking out for eachother, weirdness, and most of all her beautiful smile.

    She was a perfect “bestie soulmate” and I know I wouldn’t be where I am without her. I am so blessed to have someone as unique and special as her in my life. I look forward to the day we meet again, till then I will live each day with you in mind.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100005017867007 Gabe Estrada

    I tried to ask my bestie to marriage….. and the shame was unbearable. ~END of FRIENDSHIP~

  • JaediMaster

    I met my bestie in high school 15 years ago. We now live several states aparty but she’s there for me whenever I need to talk or vent. I think the best part about our friendship is we’re opposites in many respects, but we’re both totally willing to indulge each others hobbies or interests when we get to see each other. In many ways our being opposites has worked because we balance each other out.

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  • Lilly Young

    Been besties with my bff going on 20 years now. She’s become my bff, sister, family and she’s my girly soulmate. We always have each others back no matter what and I can tell her anything and not feel judged for doing something stupid. She’s my wifey and my number one bitch! Xoxo

  • Ava Garland-Zendt

    Yes my bestie and I were every number on this list. I currently don’t have one because she passed 6 years ago and I haven’t have had one since. I don’t believe that I can have another. My ex and I live together and we’re best friends-ish, but never will they be her.

    • Lynette

      So sorry! My bestie has been my bestie for almost 20 years. I can’t even begin to imagine life without her. I teared up just reading your post because it immediately made me think of losing her. It would be like trying to go on without half of my soul. Hugs to you, Ava. <3

  • Hayley Prychun Rodgers

    Why does my bestie have to be girl? I haven’t had any of these with girls since I was a kid. I have always gotten along better with guys, and have a few relationships like this with them.

    • Guest

      My best friend is a dude… and these all applied to him as well. haha. Just have to change the “she” to “he” and it’s still a fun read. :)

    • Raven Kelly

      yeah i feel you, Hayley, me too, my bestie is a guy. .and i have trust issues on having a girl for a bestie. .well, eversince i only have had guys for a friend

  • Heather

    We met in college, although she didn’t go to my school haha. We’re basically the same person and our daughters are 6 months apart (not planned) and are also very close, which makes my heart happy.

  • Leneisha Boyle Darby

    Love my bestie!! This article describes our friendship so accurately. She’s my rock, when I need her I know she’s there. We are crazy, share many inside jokes, find fun in everything we do, enjoy just being together. We have a bond not many share and I can’t imagine life without her.

  • Kelly Trina

    My best friend is a dude, but we have this relationship almost point-for-point. The only place we don’t click is on movies. I hate going to the theater, he loves it. But I forgive him for his weaknesses and he accepts that he has them.

  • Linda Maher Frasca

    I have been blessed with not one but two BBFL. One for my entire life. Yes, one is my sister – she is my ultimate BF and always will be. My other BBFL and I have been the best of friends for 37 years now and everything said in the post about BF’s is us to a tee. We can go weeks/months without seeing or having a chance to talk but when we do get together it’s like we just spoke or were together. We laugh, cry, joke, do silly stuff, etc.. I am one very lucky lady to have them both in my life. To Debbie and Sherri – BBFL – Horrah!!!

  • tamara

    Me and my best bud just start talking in an Australian accent for no reason whatsoever. We act like we are teenagers I’m almost 40 and she is 35 😀 Our husband’s think we are totally crazy mad!!

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